Lonely is De Javu
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Hi. I am new to SG forums. Just wondering where to seek constructive advice and found SG forums.
I am 18/19 this year. I am a little introvert, but my "introvert-ness" came about because no one really willing to be real friends with me :(
Those that so called friends with me all "left" already. They are all superficial.
I realised that many of my friends befriended me because i was a little smarter than the rest in some areas; academic and non-academic. I belong in no clique like a free floating soul. I am enemies with no one but best friends with almost none. Just like a diplomat.
When the event is over, like example"O-levels", they show their true face and just isolated me away. Got outing also never invite me. Slowly slowly everyone is doing this to me.
Everytime/Mostly stay at home, i would like to go out with someone, but no one is there, only my shadow.
Also, i have a big problem being friends with girls. I can count the number of "girl-friends" i have in a few seconds. Many of my friends all having or starting/on the verge of a bgf, and here i am still talking to the computer screen. I wonder how to meet more girls or something? I am about to enlist to NS in a few days and i feel i going mental le. With NS mental stress later on, i feel i can just say goodbye to this world.
NS two years, how to meet more girls during this time (decent ones)? 2 years meet only guys. Please dont tell me i have to wait till Uni (thats if it is possible) because by then all the nice singaporean girls within the suitable age range would be snapped up; either by locals or mostly by foreigners.
Any useful advice anyone? I do not know if i am suffering from depression because i weep very often in bed at night.
Thanks in advance and sorry for such a long post.
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if your main worry is about girls, i've got news for you. if you got the money, you can have an actress or top model girlfriend, no problem. even blonde ang moh with big boobs also can. young boy, you worry too much. guys is different from girls, you can be very old but still have a sweet young thing as a girlfriend. if u have money, don't say 1 ah, you want 10 girlfriends also can. if u got money and no gf, let me know lah, i introduce you all my female friends, but you come find me after ur ns lah, now you find me is a waste of time because you're so young and your life focus is on the wrong thing.
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Something to cheer you up.CNY is coming.What are you going to do with your Hongbao money?For me, time to upgrade my colourless screen phone to a camera phone.What about you?
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Well, this is the real world, isn't it? Life is about making use of each other till the day we die. And if your friends don't invite you to their social gatherings, blame no one...not even yourself. It just means they find you helpful academic wise but not exactly one who is a joy to hang around with either.
NS is a good time to reflect on life since your job inside is very very stable lol. Many people enter NS looking depressed but they come out stronger and happier. Cheers for this too shall pass.
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TS, you will soon find that there are many many people who face the same problem as you..... there are many many people who face it for some time and at some point in their life... its like a feeling that we find ourselves very much alone and there doesnt seem to be any one whom we can share our emotions and our feelings and our thoughts with.... therefore we start feeling depressed that we hardly find anyone who is interested in us
how we get out of this mode or how we overcome this loneliness depends on you. only you can help you.
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who is De Javu?
Is she also lonely?
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Originally posted by Worms reloaded:
Hi. I am new to SG forums. Just wondering where to seek constructive advice and found SG forums.
I am 18/19 this year. I am a little introvert, but my "introvert-ness" came about because no one really willing to be real friends with me :(
Those that so called friends with me all "left" already. They are all superficial.
I realised that many of my friends befriended me because i was a little smarter than the rest in some areas; academic and non-academic. I belong in no clique like a free floating soul. I am enemies with no one but best friends with almost none. Just like a diplomat.
When the event is over, like example"O-levels", they show their true face and just isolated me away. Got outing also never invite me. Slowly slowly everyone is doing this to me.
Everytime/Mostly stay at home, i would like to go out with someone, but no one is there, only my shadow.
Also, i have a big problem being friends with girls. I can count the number of "girl-friends" i have in a few seconds. Many of my friends all having or starting/on the verge of a bgf, and here i am still talking to the computer screen. I wonder how to meet more girls or something? I am about to enlist to NS in a few days and i feel i going mental le. With NS mental stress later on, i feel i can just say goodbye to this world.
NS two years, how to meet more girls during this time (decent ones)? 2 years meet only guys. Please dont tell me i have to wait till Uni (thats if it is possible) because by then all the nice singaporean girls within the suitable age range would be snapped up; either by locals or mostly by foreigners.
Any useful advice anyone? I do not know if i am suffering from depression because i weep very often in bed at night.
Thanks in advance and sorry for such a long post.
Buddy, I oso hv the same fear as u but don't worry, u still young. NS is chance for u to make contact wif other guys n make buddies. Good chance to make frens. When ther guys get together, make longlasting frenships. So as long u dun let down everyone.
People dun call u for outing bcause they assume u dun want to go. Next time if u hear anybody talking about outing, u just say u want to join in lah. If they reject u, u must be a little thick skin. Nowadays, in life, we have to take some rejection, tat way we learn n we become stronger. Take initiative lah, make some phone call to some fren, ask them how r they, what they doing, if got chance grasp opportunity to join their outing lah.
Stop gripping, NS is not prison sentence. Aiyah, after enlistment, u still young ma. Also got a lot of foreign gals like Angel 7030 u can swipe off the feet, if u dun hv chance to go after local gals.
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
Buddy, I oso hv the same fear as u but don't worry, u still young. NS is chance for u to make contact wif other guys n make buddies. Good chance to make frens. When ther guys get together, make longlasting frenships. So as long u dun let down everyone.
People dun call u for outing bcause they assume u dun want to go. Next time if u hear anybody talking about outing, u just say u want to join in lah. If they reject u, u must be a little thick skin. Nowadays, in life, we have to take some rejection, tat way we learn n we become stronger. Take initiative lah, make some phone call to some fren, ask them how r they, what they doing, if got chance grasp opportunity to join their outing lah.
Stop gripping, NS is not prison sentence. Aiyah, after enlistment, u still young ma. Also got a lot of foreign gals like Angel 7030 u can swipe off the feet, if u dun hv chance to go after local gals.
ehh.... angel7030 from where ah?
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snoopig!!! calling u!!!
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angel7030 is a guy la. All of you kena conned liao.
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got a fireice in sgforum mah.
TS can go after her. She is old enough to be your gf cum mother
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how would a newbie know?
are u going to gimme the i been reading here for 10 yrs but recently registered crap??
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Misleading title! I thought Dejavu was lonely
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Originally posted by FireIce:
how would a newbie know?
are u going to gimme the i been reading here for 10 yrs but recently registered crap??
I did not read for 10 years and recently register.I register recently and read many of the previous posts to find out about you because I want to stalk you.
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Originally posted by Worms reloaded:
Hi. I am new to SG forums. Just wondering where to seek constructive advice and found SG forums.
I am 18/19 this year. I am a little introvert, but my "introvert-ness" came about because no one really willing to be real friends with me :(
Those that so called friends with me all "left" already. They are all superficial.
I realised that many of my friends befriended me because i was a little smarter than the rest in some areas; academic and non-academic. I belong in no clique like a free floating soul. I am enemies with no one but best friends with almost none. Just like a diplomat.
When the event is over, like example"O-levels", they show their true face and just isolated me away. Got outing also never invite me. Slowly slowly everyone is doing this to me.
Everytime/Mostly stay at home, i would like to go out with someone, but no one is there, only my shadow.
Also, i have a big problem being friends with girls. I can count the number of "girl-friends" i have in a few seconds. Many of my friends all having or starting/on the verge of a bgf, and here i am still talking to the computer screen. I wonder how to meet more girls or something? I am about to enlist to NS in a few days and i feel i going mental le. With NS mental stress later on, i feel i can just say goodbye to this world.
NS two years, how to meet more girls during this time (decent ones)? 2 years meet only guys. Please dont tell me i have to wait till Uni (thats if it is possible) because by then all the nice singaporean girls within the suitable age range would be snapped up; either by locals or mostly by foreigners.
Any useful advice anyone? I do not know if i am suffering from depression because i weep very often in bed at night.
Thanks in advance and sorry for such a long post.
Oh young boy!!! Come come, dun be shy, come boy, let jie jie sayang you, my place here in joo chiat 290 can help you to become extra Extrovert, guaranteed. Jie jie angel only 22yo, last time when first start posting here, only 17yo, that time I was also very boring, then all these sgforum jie jie, kor kor, uncles and aunties brighten up my days.
Dun be afraid, my place got lot of aunties wanted to befriend a young handsome new bird like you, you can earn alot of money, and when you got money...all the young girls like jie jie will run to you, this is how it works, you can get all the tuition you want to go into University and then in army, if you got money, somehow, someone are willing to do the hard duties for you, start now before you grow old ya.
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Originally posted by Rock^Star:
angel7030 is a guy la. All of you kena conned liao.
You kenna conned, so many of them come my place see me, still give them corn to eat...with white wine. -
Originally posted by angel7030:
You kenna conned, so many of them come my place see me, still give them corn to eat...with white wine.
I went to see you before and I saw that you got a dick -
You went into the wrong pub, the next door is a gay one. Haiz, told you 290, also got 290A. the A one is Gay one ok, no wonder you see a gay...hehehe, how much you paid for it??
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Originally posted by angel7030:
You went into the wrong pub, the next door is a gay one. Haiz, told you 290, also got 290A. the A one is Gay one ok, no wonder you see a gay...hehehe, how much you paid for it??
Haiz, wasting money go to pub. Like tat I ask TS to go to 7-eleven to buy many beer,drink until drunk then got guts to talk to gals, even better still. Cheaper than wasting money in pub. All the GRO there only want to make u spend more $$$. More $$$, the more the GRO like you. Go to Geylang better still. 290 Joo Chiat is child's play. See no touch, touch no see.
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
Haiz, wasting money go to pub. Like tat I ask TS to go to 7-eleven to buy many beer,drink until drunk then got guts to talk to gals, even better still. Cheaper than wasting money in pub. All the GRO there only want to make u spend more $$$. More $$$, the more the GRO like you. Go to Geylang better still. 290 Joo Chiat is child's play. See no touch, touch no see.
One day you will learn that see no touch and touch no see is better than see all and touch all.Now bear this in mind, i think you also experience it if not try it, same goes to gals like me, once a gal bare all and give you touch, the fun is over, once a guy bare all and let us touch, no more shiok already. The fun only exist in see no toucn and touch no see.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
One day you will learn that see no touch and touch no see is better than see all and touch all.Now bear this in mind, i think you also experience it if not try it, same goes to gals like me, once a gal bare all and give you touch, the fun is over, once a guy bare all and let us touch, no more shiok already. The fun only exist in see no toucn and touch no see.
Haiz, see no touch touch no see, where got pleasure? I buy Hustler magazine and see picture better still. Of cuz more shiok to do lah. If you see picture of Ferrari or see in car shop, look nice very pleasure meh? I own and drive a Ferrari even more pleasure lah.
Haiz, no wonder you still got no Sg man boyfren bcause you dunt understand meaning of sex.
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some one suggested blow dolls in the other thread. maybe you can start by having one as a 'friend' first. then when u become more confident,
u can buy a few more blow dolls...