whats the problem with me?
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suffering from depression? confusion? frustration? i really dunoe.... :(
Whats the problem with me?
I knew there something deep in my heart which till now I couldn’t open up since.
It lead me to confusion… unable to focus my work stuff. Trying so hard to get over things and telling my colleagues how to overcome my problems. They will asked me what problem I facing. I told them they are accumulated. I have been depressing myself for almost a month or so? Telling my bf about these problems only help at that moment.
He told me to ignore these stuffs… my heart is struggling for a better life, a better me.
i have even a friend, told me, dun “Zua Niu Jiao Qian” – thinking too extreme I guess., face the problem and be brave.
It is always to be said than done. I took every question as a burden, and seem every question to me needed to be commited.
Taking things too hard, too serious.
I couldn’t really enjoy things I wanna do like how my friends did.
Etc, going for a holiday… I will worried for transport how to go home when I reach Singapore? Etc etc..
Going to work, first thing come to my mind is what to do first? But I have left many things undone, untouched….
But it don’t seem to help at all.
What should I do?
School
School has always been tough.
Social – however, my toughest thing is to face my coursemates.
For instance, I will feel rather bad that I shared my school stuffs with Team A, not Team B, etc. or dining in, I will feel bad when I know my coursemate will paid for my drinks, that I obliged to jus accept the offer by them most of the time.
about work oso too much problem until i duno what to say...
Too much to say until I duno what to say…
I rush my stuffs, end up loads of mistakes. I should check it but Im lack of patience.
ITS MY PROBLEM.. I knew it. Even my boyfriend says it.
I took everything so seriously that holding it too tightly…. L
Becos of this accumuatated problems, I couldn’t get over it, I think of ending my life… but I have no courage over it.
I CAN ONLY HELP MYSELF.
NOBODY ELSE DOES. EXCEPT ME.
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TS, it is very vague what your problem is.... your post is confusing to read......
and in the end, i think you found your own answer oreidi.... that is only you can solve your own problem
but u oreidi have the answer but u dont seem to accept the answer... u take yourself and your surrounding and people around you too seriously.. u will be prone to feeling upset and depression if you continue.. learn to smile more and laugh more
just relax more ba... dont so tense or so upset over small things. take more coffee breaks. talk more to your friends. continue to discuss with your boyfriend. chill out
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why yr problem so similar to mine?
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Life is like that
ppl who take it to hard will suffer
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Ts, i was once in ur shoes. I guess u have the fear of not meeting up expectation. Every 1 have fear its just that some are good at handling some are not that good. Keep telling urself u can handle wat every problem that comes ur way. Keep tell ur self u can handle it. That how i overcome. There is a book call feel the fear and do it anyway. Take a look at it. Hope it will helps u. Good luck.
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I very surprise leh, how u can go tis far in yer life, worry worry so much.
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Right now you are confused.
The problem with you is that you do not know how to deal with things one by one. You tend to try to deal with all your problems at the same time, which you can't, and you get frustrated and even more confused.
Think about this, if I give you one big bowl of rice, and you can't finish it, what do you do?
Worry about how to finish it? Get angry with me for giving you a big bowl of rice? Get frustrated while you struggle to finish it? You see, you let your negative emotions control you. If I were you, I'll simply eat as much as I want and screw the rest i.e. throw away, leave it, give to someone and etc.
"going for a holiday… I will worried for transport how to go home when I reach Singapore" - instead of worrying, you can simply take a cab home or no money? google in advance, find out the bus/train routes that can bring you home or ask your bf.
Remember this, for any problem, find a working solution first, it doesn't have to be perfect, but you need to learn to understand the flaws and improve the solution. There's a saying, the more you do something, the better you get at it.
"Genius is 1% talent and 99% percent hard work..."
— Albert Einstein -
some questions to clarify first
1. on a scale of 1 to 10, how hot are you?
2. are you still a virgin
3. are you willing to submit to a one night stand
thanks for participating
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Dear msiceblue,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I won't jump into conclusion what conditions you are suffering now, but what I can clear tell is that you are having a difficult phase in your life right now. I feel glad that you understand these 'obstacles' are serious enough to affected your daily life, and you realised the need to take some actions.
I am Chin Seng from Homework Forum, and I am waiting for NS, I guess I have a couple of free time on my schedule. If you do not mind, let's come out for a simple meal and perhaps I could offer you my two cents worth. Please send me a PM to arrange a meeting with me if you are interested.
Best Regards,
Chin Seng
Homework Forum ModeratorP.S. If anybody need a listening ear, you may send me a PM and we can have lunch together. I am free for lunch T_T and don't like to eat alone.
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people got bf la. I'm very stressed, u can meet me or not?
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the problem is due to total lack of self confidence which could lead to hyper anxiety disorder........
from the self worrying questions u posed, u really need to be thrown into the open sea and let u find your way out of the tides....then u will overcome the barriers and anxiety of what could and could not........
there was just that kind of japanese kid that used to be very timid and really really afraid of water and swimming.........he was then thrown into the pool by students who ridicule him and struggled his way to gasp for air to survive....which was his first lesson to overcome his timidity and learn how to swim.........
this little boy's name is Soichiro Honda
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You think too much.
You think you have a lot of problems.
List down your problems, and count them.
You really don't have much problems.
Because some of the problems are not problems at all.
Your character is NATO type.
No Action Think Only.
Write down, and strike out, one by one.
Life is doing things. Look around you, the lively people are the ones doing something.
Anything, as long as it is something. Be an expert on one thing, and you have a life.
How about being an expert on Origami? Or be a biker?
Just get started, and don't think too much.
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i just want to way tt phrase u wanted to say is actually 钻牛角尖 (zuan niu jiao jian)
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For a moment there, I thought the TS was mistyblue.
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Damn, even the fonts you used are different. You had to type it out in msword before you pasted it in this forum huh? Do it in notepad, there won't be any formatting.
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and u bet this is bcos need to spam in every forum tt appeared in google results
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This is becoming a insitute of mental forum (IMF) soon...hehehe
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Thanks for the advise everyone..realli appreciate that.
I will learn to let go things ----- relaxing my mind.
Yeah, i tried listing out the problems..realize that some problems or worries are created by myself..unecessary stress.. It is better to let it go then i holding on it.
Things starting to improve recently, i have better sleep.
Happy or sad also counted as one day. Why i dun choose to be happy?
Maybe those problems i have may not have solutions now... leave the problems aside if could not be solved... solution may come one day ba, hopefully. (wonder what is the phrase for this sentence??):)
Hey.. btw i do not like to spam forums.. lols. :P (this is the only forum i seek help from lah...)
& i try using notepad to type out the stuffs, haha, no formatting needed!! haha..
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Originally posted by msiceblue:
Thanks for the advise everyone..realli appreciate that.
I will learn to let go things ----- relaxing my mind.
Yeah, i tried listing out the problems..realize that some problems or worries are created by myself..unecessary stress.. It is better to let it go then i holding on it.
Things starting to improve recently, i have better sleep.
Happy or sad also counted as one day. Why i dun choose to be happy?
Maybe those problems i have may not have solutions now... leave the problems aside if could not be solved... solution may come one day ba, hopefully. (wonder what is the phrase for this sentence??):)
Hey.. btw i do not like to spam forums.. lols. :P (this is the only forum i seek help from lah...)
& i try using notepad to type out the stuffs, haha, no formatting needed!! haha..
Notepad? No need lah. Make a mental note. We r not exactly psychologists. Again u take things too seriously.
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keep a diary is good
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Originally posted by msiceblue:
Thanks for the advise everyone..realli appreciate that.
I will learn to let go things ----- relaxing my mind.
Yeah, i tried listing out the problems..realize that some problems or worries are created by myself..unecessary stress.. It is better to let it go then i holding on it.
Things starting to improve recently, i have better sleep.
Happy or sad also counted as one day. Why i dun choose to be happy?
Maybe those problems i have may not have solutions now... leave the problems aside if could not be solved... solution may come one day ba, hopefully. (wonder what is the phrase for this sentence??):)
Hey.. btw i do not like to spam forums.. lols. :P (this is the only forum i seek help from lah...)
& i try using notepad to type out the stuffs, haha, no formatting needed!! haha..
Tho I said nothing, I hope I helped you, nothing mean nothing, and nothing is also best of everything, so try to think of nothing more often ya, then you will be in more peace of mind. -
Originally posted by FBFIce:
keep a diary is good
still got diary now a day meh??? wha lau, u from dinosaur period hor -
i still do write down wat i did in my computer
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
Notepad? No need lah. Make a mental note. We r not exactly psychologists. Again u take things too seriously.
ya, most of these people who advised you here are nobody, you get kor kor papasan, mamasan, ah long san, mao san, ah san, ke lian the san san, bota san and many other sans.. -
Originally posted by FBFIce:
i still do write down wat i did in my computer
blog lah