Up and down
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Life is full of up and down, almost everyone knows that. But sometimes we are not strong enough to tackle these emotional swings, and when we suffer from it, we will vent it out, hurting another person. To start it off, let me describe my case. I am only a Secondary 4 kid. This is the age where kids start to prepare for their Os, aiming for top JCs or best Poly course. For me, I experienced no difficulty academically but there is something that constantly bugged me, my social being. Everyday I dread attending lessons, fearing that one of my classmates will again start mocking me, and everytime he does that, I felt violent, literally, wanted to bash him up but of course I understood resilience and tolerated, quietly. Now, here is the scary part, whenever I had difficulty in school, I will vent it out when I return home, by screaming and accusing my mother. I know this is very bad, very very bad but I really cannot help it. I will describe it as it feels great that someone had tears in her eyes, cause I felt, someone at least understood what I felt but at the same time[though when my classmate accused me I didnt cry] I felt guilty of those hurtful words used. I know this should stop but I cant! It sort of happens automatically when I am upset. Schooling should be all about fun and new great experiences but I do not enjoy these but contradictingly, schooling is a miserable place for me. Fellow forumers, any advice you could give?
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i also know one person who got push around in school and he scold me on fb.
so i gave him a song, "mean" by taylor swift
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go and listen to mean, its a beatiful song
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Originally posted by BillaMax:
Life is full of up and down, almost everyone knows that. But sometimes we are not strong enough to tackle these emotional swings, and when we suffer from it, we will vent it out, hurting another person.
To start it off, let me describe my case. I am only a Secondary 4 kid. This is the age where kids start to prepare for their Os, aiming for top JCs or best Poly course. For me, I experienced no difficulty academically but there is something that constantly bugged me, my social being.
Everyday I dread attending lessons, fearing that one of my classmates will again start mocking me, and everytime he does that, I felt violent, literally, wanted to bash him up but of course I understood resilience and tolerated, quietly.
Now, here is the scary part, whenever I had difficulty in school, I will vent it out when I return home, by screaming and accusing my mother. I know this is very bad, very very bad but I really cannot help it. I will describe it as it feels great that someone had tears in her eyes, cause I felt, someone at least understood what I felt but at the same time[though when my classmate accused me I didnt cry] I felt guilty of those hurtful words used.I know this should stop but I cant! It sort of happens automatically when I am upset. Schooling should be all about fun and new great experiences but I do not enjoy these but contradictingly, schooling is a miserable place for me.
Fellow forumers, any advice you could give?
This is a chain reaction, and a really bad one.
You are bullied in school, so you came home to bully your mother.
There is nothing to feel guilty about what your classmates said, there is only sadness to be felt. If the teachers are unable to do anything about those monkeys, you can seek the discipline master for help. If he/she is unwilling to do anything, seek the principal for help. If the principal does not do anything, send a letter to MOE for help.
Of course, to do the above, you will require a lot of courage. And that is what you are missing right now. With courage, you will not back down when your classmates bully you and vent the anger on your mother. I am not asking you to fight, but to seek authority help. If you actually sent a letter to MOE, your principal will certainly be force to act, but use that only as a last resort.
I am sure that a lot of people will be scolding you later, so be prepared. After all, your mum brought you up all these years, and you treated her as nothing more than a ventilation cylinder. Once you have the courage to stand up against those monkeys, you will have to muster up the courage to apologise to your mother for treating her like crap all these while.
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You are taking your mother for granted, since she will always be there for you no matter what you do.
"I will describe it as it feels great that someone had tears in her eyes, cause I felt, someone at least understood what I felt but at the same time"
That's your mom, I'm not sure how you can feel great when you make her cry.
If you really want to vent your frustrations, go beat the crap out of your classmates instead, deal with the problem yourself, don't take it out on your mom.
I hate to say it, but your a loser. I'm sure you are angry now, but if you don't want me saying that, then start learning how to deal with your own problems.
I was a loser too, but eventually, I fought back, now I can proudly say that I can deal with my own problems. You got to learn to stand up for yourself.
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Originally posted by BillaMax:
Life is full of up and down, almost everyone knows that. But sometimes we are not strong enough to tackle these emotional swings, and when we suffer from it, we will vent it out, hurting another person.
To start it off, let me describe my case. I am only a Secondary 4 kid. This is the age where kids start to prepare for their Os, aiming for top JCs or best Poly course. For me, I experienced no difficulty academically but there is something that constantly bugged me, my social being.
Everyday I dread attending lessons, fearing that one of my classmates will again start mocking me, and everytime he does that, I felt violent, literally, wanted to bash him up but of course I understood resilience and tolerated, quietly.
Now, here is the scary part, whenever I had difficulty in school, I will vent it out when I return home, by screaming and accusing my mother. I know this is very bad, very very bad but I really cannot help it. I will describe it as it feels great that someone had tears in her eyes, cause I felt, someone at least understood what I felt but at the same time[though when my classmate accused me I didnt cry] I felt guilty of those hurtful words used.I know this should stop but I cant! It sort of happens automatically when I am upset. Schooling should be all about fun and new great experiences but I do not enjoy these but contradictingly, schooling is a miserable place for me.
Fellow forumers, any advice you could give?
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yeah loser
no balls to take on people who can retaliate
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up and down is a natural thing in life, male asset also go up and down, but mostly down, we female also perk up and down at time. So, take up and down as naturally as it come. When it is up, enjoy it, cos when it is down, it will quite difficult to go up again, especially so for old men and those with mental illness ya
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That's what life is about....that's what make life interesting....ups and down! Enjoy the ride!
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You not only learn at school but oso learn how to handle politics. Only way: Grow Up. Because when you work, there is even more politics. Bully? Learn to fight back. Socially awkward? Buy new clothe n force yourself to mix wif other classmate. They don't like u? Too bad, grow more thick skin.
If u canot handle school, u destine to struggle when work n finding marriage.
Dun go to IMH, u taking short cut. Only people like Miss Little Bonker go to IMH n see the world of gud turn out for that mad lady. Handle yer problem straight on head on.
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
You not only learn at school but oso learn how to handle politics. Only way: Grow Up. Because when you work, there is even more politics.
If you can't handle the politics in school, your adult life will be worse....
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aiyo. those kind of people, just ignore them. no point in taking their comments to heart.
obviously they have no life or sense of humour if the only thing he can joke/mock about is his fellow classmate.
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
You not only learn at school but oso learn how to handle politics. Only way: Grow Up. Because when you work, there is even more politics. Bully? Learn to fight back. Socially awkward? Buy new clothe n force yourself to mix wif other classmate. They don't like u? Too bad, grow more thick skin.
If u canot handle school, u destine to struggle when work n finding marriage.
Dun go to IMH, u taking short cut. Only people like Miss Little Bonker go to IMH n see the world of gud turn out for that mad lady. Handle yer problem straight on head on.
oh, in sg school, also got politic hor, thats mean also got election and voting process...hmmm...who said dun go IMH, go IMH and work as accountant also good mah, at least do some good to people who need help, work in those money grabbing corporation like PAP and banks not only take your money, also suck your blood. -
Everywhere you go also have politics....learn to cope with them diplomatically.
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no lah, my nunnery monastery in taiwan, no politics one, cos hor, in a nunnery the higher you go, the more works and responsibilities you have to hold with the same allowances as the lowest nun grade
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Originally posted by angel7030:
no lah, my nunnery monastery in taiwan, no politics one, cos hor, in a nunnery the higher you go, the more works and responsibilities you have to hold with the same allowances as the lowest nun grade
My life is a roller coaster ride....sometimes so happy/exciting and sometimes so sad/boring. Why u gave up your nunnery life?
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Master Nun at the Hwa monastery: Lingmei, it time for you to go back to the suffering world.
Lingmei (angel): No master, I want to be here forever with you, i dun like the outside killing and suffering world.
Master: Stupid, haven't I taught you the essence of nothing last forever, you need to go and help the outside world, what you learn here, need to be practice in a suffering world, if not, it is useless. Moreover, you need to help those who are suffering.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Master Nun at the Hwa monastery: Lingmei, it time for you to go back to the suffering world.
Lingmei (angel): No master, I want to be here forever with you, i dun like the outside killing and suffering world.
Master: Stupid, haven't I taught you the essence of nothing last forever, you need to go and help the outside world, what you learn here, need to be practice in a suffering world, if not, it is useless. Moreover, you need to help those who are suffering.
So now you are "helping people" to rest and relax by selling them legally addictive stimulants (liquors) ?
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Originally posted by Demon Bane:
So now you are "helping people" to rest and relax by selling them legally addictive stimulants (liquors) ?
liquors has been around since the begining of mankind, just like prositution, the idea here is to reduce human from taking it too much, and in hoping that they go back safely and dun come anymore. Or if they do, take lighter or non alcoholic drink. -
Originally posted by angel7030:
liquors has been around since the begining of mankind, just like prositution, the idea here is to reduce human from taking it too much, and in hoping that they go back safely and dun come anymore. Or if they do, take lighter or non alcoholic drink.Life is up and down, so many people will go pub either too happy or too sad...good biz for you!