Being a divorcee in Singapore
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Originally posted by African Killer Bee:
Zweiz are you being an ass because you are obstinate (in which case I’ll ignore you) or because you’re obnoxious (in which case please accept my virtual middle finger)? Laverne has said she will talk about her previous marriage WHEN it’s appropriate for her date to know. how’s that unreasonable? Do you go around telling your dates all potential deal breakers that might exist between you and her? First date? If so you’re even more a weirdo than I imagine.
Lol
There are plenty of people like that around here. Best way out is to ignore them.
So TS, maybe you should try ignoring unconstructive comments and just focus on getting the right guy out there.
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Laverne, are you actually in Singapore, or still in USA/Australia?UK?
If you aren't in SG, then this thread can only help you so much.
Basically being divorced is a disadvantage, but not nearly as much as being divorced with a child.
The only real way to know is by living in Singapore. You're only 25-26(I assume), so spending a year in SG doesn't really matter much, and you'll be back in Asia.
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I think being a divorcee is tough no matter which country you are.
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Simply put it, a divorcee is a graduate of marriage, it is not tough for them, for they already being tested, examined and qualified. For me, as single, I hv yet to attend such course.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Simply put it, a divorcee is a graduate of marriage, it is not tough for them, for they already being tested, examined and qualified. For me, as single, I hv yet to attend such course.
You dun need to get married to know about it....sooo many cases of unhappy marriages....plus divorces, more than enough for you to learn and graduate without any course work....
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that is theory, which consitute only 60% of the course, you need to do practical project inorder to achieve the next 40%, of course, as a single, I also know the theoretical part, hmm...sound like I need to get married and divorce in order to complete this course, then I will be qualified as a divorcee.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
that is theory, which consitute only 60% of the course, you need to do practical project inorder to achieve the next 40%, of course, as a single, I also know the theoretical part, hmm...sound like I need to get married and divorce in order to complete this course, then I will be qualified as a divorcee.
Why u wanna get married if u already expect you'll be divorced soon enough? Plus u have trouble finding a husband that's richer than you, no?
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just a test mah, at least got a chance to wear the bride grown, be a bride, and people clap for you. After a few month, file for divorce lor.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
just a test mah, at least got a chance to wear the bride grown, be a bride, and people clap for you. After a few month, file for divorce lor.
Do you think there's chance that your marriage can work? Very rare but still possible!
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Actually, marriage is just a buzz word both in paper and legal aspect, it is just an announcement to the world that you are married, by and large, those couple not yet married are more lovier and romantic than those married.
However, people tends to take marriage seriously, it put a couple into legal rights, black and white, rules and regulations with terms and conditions. Marriage is created by men, no religion said that you must marry, it just said, man and woman, go built your family and borne childrens as your decendent.
As for me, as a gal, marriage dun work for me, i will spell some terms with my husband to be, and as you know, before marrying, guy will do all kind of shit for a gal, so put it in the legal paper, after married, a few month down the road, create problem for him...catch him on the tail, make him loose face, then he declares divorce, and that is the time I take in the harvest. You got to be smart hor, make full use of marriage and the women charter laws to your advantage
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Actually, marriage is just a buzz word both in paper and legal aspect, it is just an announcement to the world that you are married, by and large, those couple not yet married are more lovier and romantic than those married.
However, people tends to take marriage seriously, it put a couple into legal rights, black and white, rules and regulations with terms and conditions. Marriage is created by men, no religion said that you must marry, it just said, man and woman, go built your family and borne childrens as your decendent.
As for me, as a gal, marriage dun work for me, i will spell some terms with my husband to be, and as you know, before marrying, guy will do all kind of shit for a gal, so put it in the legal paper, after married, a few month down the road, create problem for him...catch him on the tail, make him loose face, then he declares divorce, and that is the time I take in the harvest. You got to be smart hor, make full use of marriage and the women charter laws to your advantage
Why you sounded so protective ? Yes the women charter is here to protect women, but dun abuse it mah...why u wanna find trouble for him? You mean you will married and then divorced for a huge $$$ ?
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To get married is to get a certificate to produce children legally. If you don't wish to have children, I don't see the point of getting married. Just stay together will do. Why so troublesome get married and when not happy, have to go through troublesome process to divorce.
I have asked my friends who are divorcee. I asked them whether do they wish to get married. They told me they just got out of the shit, why jump in again ?
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Originally posted by Pinknutri:
To get married is to get a certificate to produce children legally. If you don't wish to have children, I don't see the point of getting married. Just stay together will do. Why so troublesome get married and when not happy, have to go through troublesome process to divorce.
I have asked my friends who are divorcee. I asked them whether do they wish to get married. They told me they just got out of the shit, why jump in again ?
Agreed....but are there any happy marriage out there?
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Originally posted by Demon Bane:
Agreed....but are there any happy marriage out there?
I think there are but not many happy marriages and I believe for those happy marriages, there are times when they are not happy but bonded by the certificate so no choice.
I think couples who are really in love will be happier together without the paper.
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Originally posted by Pinknutri:
I think there are but not many happy marriages and I believe for those happy marriages, there are times when they are not happy but bonded by the certificate so no choice.
I think couples who are really in love will be happier together without the paper.
Not married can't get cheap HDB flats leh....how and where to live together without the paper?
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even if married, some also cannot get "cheap" HDB flats..
in fact, there are no more cheap HDB flats..
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Originally posted by the Bear:
even if married, some also cannot get "cheap" HDB flats..
in fact, there are no more cheap HDB flats..
Yah lor....soooo expensive that the ministers still said they're affordable??!?
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Originally posted by Pinknutri:
To get married is to get a certificate to produce children legally. If you don't wish to have children, I don't see the point of getting married. Just stay together will do. Why so troublesome get married and when not happy, have to go through troublesome process to divorce.
I have asked my friends who are divorcee. I asked them whether do they wish to get married. They told me they just got out of the shit, why jump in again ?
no marry certificate also can give birth mah, just register the baby as singaporeans, govt very happy liao -
Originally posted by the Bear:
even if married, some also cannot get "cheap" HDB flats..
in fact, there are no more cheap HDB flats..
can live at ECP mah, first nite marriage in a tent, no bad leh...i go peep...but me gal, more easy to peep -
in the end, those cannot get marry, said marry no good, single is better
and those get married, said marry is ok and good
and those divorced, said marry is part of their life that had gone past, somehow, deep inside, they will remember till the deathbed
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Originally posted by angel7030:
in the end, those cannot get marry, said marry no good, single is better
and those get married, said marry is ok and good
and those divorced, said marry is part of their life that had gone past, somehow, deep inside, they will remember till the deathbed
Married or not married, in the end (at death bed) everybody is lonely..that's a sad fact..
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no lah, some go with so many good childrens and grandchildrens by the side, go also smile smile..single of cos go with nobody lah, not even the nurse or hospital cleaner
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Originally posted by angel7030:
no lah, some go with so many good childrens and grandchildrens by the side, go also smile smile..single of cos go with nobody lah, not even the nurse or hospital cleaner
What I saw before was children turned nasty over the hospital bills....and the old man waiting to die....had children but nobody visited him....
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@AKB: Thanks again heh
And you summarized my long-winded posts in a couple of sentences ;-)@OneWithTheForce: I'm still not in Singapore at the moment.
If I move, it'll be for something definite. Being a single, definite factors would be the location of my family members (parents and siblings) and a job. Of course the factors would be different if I were married. When I have found something definite for me to move, I'll also have to consider how the situation will play out for me in the new environment. That's where questions like marriage, my divorced status and social stigma comes in. But these are just a few of the many aspects in life.As much as I would prefer a Singaporean partner, I don't think I should move back to Singapore (or to anywhere else) just to look for "love and marriage". The questions posed here are based on my previous plans that my family members intend to stay in Singapore and that I will be looking for a job in Singapore. But sometimes, 计划赶�上�化。
What's your opinion then?
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Originally posted by Demon Bane:
What I saw before was children turned nasty over the hospital bills....and the old man waiting to die....had children but nobody visited him....
depend, if old man did not old gracefully, go find PRC gals, use son and daughter money, beat his old wife, careless about his image and family, highlight his old hair, drink at my pub, womanising my gals, use up all the saving, neglect his old wife who had toll with him all these years...these type alots in Singapore, that is why you dun see any his decendants visiting him. Not even the crockcoachesIf a man grew old gracefully, you can see his grace of nice old age appearances, care for his grandchildrens, childrens and wife. Think for the best for his decendents, alway put his family first by his heart, go tour with wife, respect his wife contribution to build this family...die hor, even me angel also visit him and bring him to heaven