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I dun think singapore guys really mind the girl being a divorcee...Anyway it is quite common to find women who are divorce in singapore.
There are lots of bachelors in singapore, you should get a high chance finding what you are looking for......
By the way, what is your race?
I am will turn 17 next year,TS are you interested? lol only kidding.
the men usually do not mind, it's their parents who mind...to circumvent these objections, find men who are well educated and independent...
I'm Chinese.
As for parents who mind, that is what I was also thinking about. Well, how strong will Singaporean parents object to a divorced daughter-in-law? I think marriage is the union of two families, not just two persons. I know it's subjective but are Singaporean in-laws generally completely close minded towards all divorcees? Or will they accept a girl if they see morals and/or qualities in her?
if a guy is strong and independent and mostly loves you enough, what is going to stop him?
heck! got a couple of friends who ended up being married after her divorce... and she had three children from previous marriage...
so the "close minded" and all that.. they don't really love you.. and with that, you can actually winnow out the chaff from the wheat
No, by "close-minded", I mean the in-laws, i.e. the parents of the guy.
if he doesn't stand up for you, is he worth it?
i think singaporean men would mind that you are a singaporean girl more than you are a divorcee
I would hate to have to create such problems for someone who loves me. I definitely won't demand that he falls out with his parents - filial piety should in fact be first on the list. But I am sure a man who loves a woman will definitely stand by her.
I haven't been in such a situation anyway so I don't have any further comments. I just know that being a divorcee isn't the norm, and it definitely isn't something good either :-P
This is why I want to know how much problems will a divorcee face in Singapore when looking for a new partner. Realistically.
Originally posted by Laverne:I would hate to have to create such problems for someone who loves me. I definitely won't demand that he falls out with his parents - filial piety should in fact be first on the list. But I am sure a man who loves a woman will definitely stand by her.
I haven't been in such a situation anyway so I don't have any further comments. I just know that being a divorcee isn't the norm, and it definitely isn't something good either :-P
This is why I want to know how much problems will a divorcee face in Singapore when looking for a new partner. Realistically.
go find yourself a good man..
there are many out there despite the cynics always lamenting the lack of them.. it's usually those who disappear into the background, the unassuming ones, the wallflowers and the quiet ones who will be the good men...
however, most look for the flamboyant, the slick, the sweet-tongued, fast-talking ones... and cry bitterly when they get their hearts broken by the self-admitted and well-known heartbreakers
good luck
Originally posted by PedoBear:i think singaporean men would mind that you are a singaporean girl more than you are a divorcee
lol really? If you aren't kidding, what's wrong with Singaporean girls anyway? :-P Most that I know are not bad.
haven't you heard about this saying? it's not just Singaporean girls.. it's girls everywhere...
a woman gets together with a man whom she thinks she likes because he is fun and flamboyant and "dangerous" and she wants him to change....
he changes... and she leaves him and runs to her mom crying bitterly that he's no more the man she fell in love with..
he doesn't change... and she leaves him and runs to her mom crying bitterly that he doesn't love her enough to change...
think about it...
Originally posted by Laverne:lol really? If you aren't kidding, what's wrong with Singaporean girls anyway? :-P Most that I know are not bad.
havent you heard?
most singaporean men are going for PRC/Viet/Burmese women
singaporean girls are (self-censored)
Originally posted by the Bear:go find yourself a good man..
there are many out there despite the cynics always lamenting the lack of them.. it's usually those who disappear into the background, the unassuming ones, the wallflowers and the quiet ones who will be the good men...
however, most look for the flamboyant, the slick, the sweet-tongued, fast-talking ones... and cry bitterly when they get their hearts broken by the self-admitted and well-known heartbreakers
good luck
Heh...I think I'm outta such issues. Besides, I don't know how much a flamboyant guy can attract me. I am working overseas, have travelled for many years and my previous husband was rather good looking himself ;-) I guess it's just that I want to move on in life and get on track with the right responsibilities, i.e. be a good wife, daughter, daughter-in-law and mother. Perhaps that's why I'm looking to go back home to Singapore. I like someone traditional, mature and quiet. Besides, I was never into the gaudy kinda lifestyle anyway.
Originally posted by PedoBear:
havent you heard?most singaporean men are going for PRC/Viet/Burmese women
singaporean girls are (self-censored)
Are you guys into bears or something? heh
Yea...they must have a reason for their choice. I just wonder if they face communication problems with the foreign girls...like you know, a different wavelength?
Actually, it is the true love in you. You may have the most homesome looking and wealthy guy, but if you lack of true love, your prince is never the right one.
Originally posted by Laverne:Are you guys into bears or something? heh
Yea...they must have a reason for their choice. I just wonder if they face communication problems with the foreign girls...like you know, a different wavelength?
pedobear is the anti-pedofile mascot, i dont know about bear though
imagine that they are willing to go through the inconvenience of communication problems than be with a local girl
i think its best that you intro yourself as from overseas during initial stage
SO NOW YOU FINALLY REALISED THE REALITY AFTER LIVING THROUGH YOUR SPG DREAMLAND EH ? NOW FINALLY TURNING BACK TO BE WHO YOU REALLY ARE EH ? SO HOW WAS THE
FUN WITH WHITE GUYS ? QUIT SETTLING DOWN CAUSE MOST PROBABLY ASIAN MEN DOESNT WANT A WOMAN LIKE YOU, I ADVICE YOU PROBABLY SHOULD JOIN AWARE CAUSE ITS REALLY A PLACE FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU.
Originally posted by PedoBear:
pedobear is the anti-pedofile mascot, i dont know about bear thoughimagine that they are willing to go through the inconvenience of communication problems than be with a local girl
i think its best that you intro yourself as from overseas during initial stage
You make it sound like Singaporean guys have a phobia of local girls. I kinda doubt it's that bad.
@Kirin_Rider: What made you think I married a European? Besides if I were an SPG, I wouldn't have dated native Chinese guys (i.e. the so called PRCs).
Originally posted by Laverne:You make it sound like Singaporean guys have a phobia of local girls. I kinda doubt it's that bad.
i guess its not really that bad, its just that the local girls had build a really bad reputation around themselves
the current trend is that if a local girl fails to hook a man before she stops schooling, chances are shes out of luck
realistically speaking, the men around your age would prefer a single lady. if u had not disclosed your status at the start, it would be considered as deception. the good thing is, guys usually dont mind being deceived. the bad thing is, their parents mind, a lot. so probability for success is close to zero here.
so yup, get independent men (which means usually older men, much older men). then your probability for success is much higher.
You really gotta have a deep pocket for local girls...problem is by the time the guys have deep pockets....last thing they want is to get married....
As for guys who disappear into the background, the unassuming ones, the wallflowers and the quiet ones...do doubt they are good men...problem is they are also the ones that earn the least...><"
You just can't have the best of both world......And even if u happen to meet the occassional rare ones...they are most likely hitch....
Forgive my frankness but what was on your mind when you were about to run off with a white guy ? "Screw the asian men, they are blah blah blah totally nothing compared to my (english name)"...and now dont u feel ashame you have to come running back here ? I believe you yourself should know why the marriage was carried out with this degree of secrecy..