Why is it so hard to find somebody we like
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gals usually think that guys are to be blamed first....its in their nature...save your breath to change the unpredictable creatures.... :)
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
Ego is not fiction, it is real. Ego can be good but Ego can be bad too. I usethe Good Ego. Ego is not about getting approval from others, ego is the exact opposite. Ego is for one to express self righteousness. Only people who are pushovers and lack self esteem have no ego.ego is man greatest enemy, no such tin as good ego
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
Not everybody fortunate like you and have parents like yours who can plan thing ahead for you.
My parent, I love them a lot but because they are lot highly educated, they didn't plan ahead for me.
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
Maybe just to you. Hellow Miss Bonkers, you are obviously shallow because you haven't read my thread properly. Please wear another set of spectacles lady before you start pre-judging me. Are you lacking intelligence? I never said anything about me liking pretty/popular girls. I never said I wanted a Ms Universe to be my gf. All I just wanted is for at least some element of physical attraction, is that too much to ask for?In addition to that, character is most important to me. I like a pleasant nice gal who can discuss and work things out with me.
Yes I take a good hard look at myself. What do I have to offer? A lot. I am caring, helpful, a good listener and kind as I have earlier said to another forumer. Again you not paying attention and not read carefully, before you start blurting and accusing.
It's ok, you can be as defensive as you want. Afterall, you're the one desperate for a girlfriend.
Pity you don't even appeal to online girls.
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it is very hard indeed to find a soul mate who understands and love you.
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Originally posted by seyKai:
ego is man greatest enemy, no such tin as good ego
dun worry...vanity is women excusitis to be right.....just a matter of perception
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Join a Yoga class.
Maybe can meet girls.
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join taiji class if u prefer mature ladies...
just to chip in a little humour....no offence ... :)
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
It's ok, you can be as defensive as you want. Afterall, you're the one desperate for a girlfriend.
Pity you don't even appeal to online girls.
Pity? Its a gift that I don't appeal to bonker lady like you. Speak for yourself, unless you conduct a survey that prove that I don't appeat to online girls - must be more than 30 respondents, yuo shut up, uneducated lady. You have no statistical proof. Pity urself, you so fast to judge other people.
Who say I am desperate? I am eager to want to start a family, I am eager to try relationship I like. Is that anything wrong with that? I am a male, I am interested in gals. You got something against tat? Why? Jeolous ah? I am normal wat.
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Originally posted by Jiani:
they are highly educated? why can't take a loan?
I oledi say wat, my parent take loan is wat burn us in the first place. We r in debt. -
Originally posted by seyKai:
ego is man greatest enemy, no such tin as good ego
There is no man without an ego. A man without an ego, is a man stranded on an island disillusioning himself. If you work in office, you will see all teh successful manager in the high level, got full of ego.
Everybody got ego but if you come out without ego, it is like you go to battlefield, everybody wear armor, throw spear and trident at u, u only wear t-shirt, short and flip flop.
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Originally posted by Fcukpap:
gals usually think that guys are to be blamed first....its in their nature...save your breath to change the unpredictable creatures.... :)
Yes like the crazy bonker lady. Bonker one. Suddenly jump to conclusion. This kind of lady onli look at guys for appearance and big nice car. This kind of lady neva bother to check character and soul of the guy first. Before see inside, oledi write off other people.
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Originally posted by Veggie Bao:
Join a Yoga class.
Maybe can meet girls.
Wah those gals body very flexible. Yeah lor, gals who go to ballet class, yoga class and dancing class usualy got slim body. I better put in exclusion clause that I am joking before miss bonker start to jump to conclusion and accuse me and say tat I am shallow and like pretty gals onli.
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There's nothing more pathetic than a guy trying to protect his fragile little ego.
Only people whose egos are threatened would resort to snide little personal insults.
Please don't stop showing the world how utterly pitiful you are.
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
Date you? Can also. But won't your lover jealous and try to kill me with parang?
I oso hear you got a lot of secret admirer here. Won't they jealous and try to kill me too?
Yes I want to go out but wher? Nightspot bad place to know people. Firstly, nobody invite me there. Second, even if I go there, hard to socialise, so noisy, the music, canot hear wat people talking. Thirdly, would I dare to go to some girl and ask for her phone number? Scary. You may say I got no guts but this is very scary business. Some people get killed in nightspot because of this. Love rivalry.
Kor kor,You seem like a very timid guy, want to do something also worry this and that, guess that hinder your progress in finding girls. Be strong and steady lah, dun care what other people think, just go into some pubs or disco, talk to some gals, then watch and see, dance abit with some of them, by midnite, most gals will be quite high already, then get one you like to take care of her, dance with her, take her home and get her contact nos, next day, ask how is she and date her for dinner or lunch lah, from there you can carry on,...if she said she has bf or not interested, ask her to intro some frens.
LOVE is free, what rivalry are you toking about?? If I love you, who can stop it?? like and love is different hor. when speaking to gal, open your ear and listen properly, dun anyhow assume a gal loves you when she said she likes you ya
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and also hor, kor kor, you can answer/reply and talk to so many forumers here freely, why out of forum, you can talk liao meh??
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this one i agree with ts leh, every chio bu i see i also like but when they see me they no like me leh
haiz
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Kor kor,You seem like a very timid guy, want to do something also worry this and that, guess that hinder your progress in finding girls. Be strong and steady lah, dun care what other people think, just go into some pubs or disco, talk to some gals, then watch and see, dance abit with some of them, by midnite, most gals will be quite high already, then get one you like to take care of her, dance with her, take her home and get her contact nos, next day, ask how is she and date her for dinner or lunch lah, from there you can carry on,...if she said she has bf or not interested, ask her to intro some frens.
LOVE is free, what rivalry are you toking about?? If I love you, who can stop it?? like and love is different hor. when speaking to gal, open your ear and listen properly, dun anyhow assume a gal loves you when she said she likes you ya
mei mei, school open already hor, dont spend your time come here and love and like hor, better go and study your old and air level hor. wait i gib u become kor kor then u know hor
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we also like chio kong, chio bu loves chio kong is a perfect fit, but we dun like bota chio kong, that's all.
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Originally posted by BotaHead:
mei mei, school open already hor, dont spend your time come here and love and like hor, better go and study your old and air level hor. wait i gib u become kor kor then u know hor
I got diploma already hor, dun mei mei here and there hor. -
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
There's nothing more pathetic than a guy trying to protect his fragile little ego.
Only people whose egos are threatened would resort to snide little personal insults.
Please don't stop showing the world how utterly pitiful you are.
Well, I can't help it if I remind you of that guy you had a crush with at school (when you had pimples and wore large braces) but I rejected you in front of everyone else, make you so ashame thatyou almost committed suicide. Now, you are sitting by ur PC, rotting away, with white hair and wrinkles, nobody want yuo and you feel compelled to be like Zorro wanting vendetta against guys like me.
I don't need ur pity, go pity urself. Women got ego too. You have ego and you're mad.
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exactly women would just try to exploit the "gentleman code" to their social advantage...
remember, there is no need for a prefix before the word MAN....be your self and stand up to what u think is right...MAN needs no descriptor...
u can actually turn your back at them, or drop them on the highway as u deem fit...they would kiss your feet instead...treat them "bad" in a cool way....u would have their vain heart..
the trick is to make yourself treasurable than you make them so wanted by your hardwork which in modern relationship vocabulary is foolish...
trust your instincts...that would make you greater
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Kor kor,You seem like a very timid guy, want to do something also worry this and that, guess that hinder your progress in finding girls. Be strong and steady lah, dun care what other people think, just go into some pubs or disco, talk to some gals, then watch and see, dance abit with some of them, by midnite, most gals will be quite high already, then get one you like to take care of her, dance with her, take her home and get her contact nos, next day, ask how is she and date her for dinner or lunch lah, from there you can carry on,...if she said she has bf or not interested, ask her to intro some frens.
LOVE is free, what rivalry are you toking about?? If I love you, who can stop it?? like and love is different hor. when speaking to gal, open your ear and listen properly, dun anyhow assume a gal loves you when she said she likes you ya
Wah "if you love me", I shy shy la wei. Of course la, I neva assume a gal like me or not. Try to discuss ma, find out weak points so I can learn how to disarm a gal and make me more attractive and desirable to the gal I like.
Try, Try, but for a guy, not so easy. Got one time I ask a gal at a restaurant about her phone number, turn out a guy wuz there, he was unhappy wif my advances. So he stood in front of her and ask me "what is my biz doing here". I say I only want her no. He look angry, like want to whack me. Dunno whether he is fren, bf or brother. But since she look shy shy didn't give, I walk away.
At least I try, I shouldget an award for braveness. Full Medal of Honor.
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When one is dysfunctional and one tries to not deal with it or reconcile to the conflict(s) within oneself, the tendency is to heap with externalities like dressing up, academic achievements, money and .... but it is mere ''window dressing''. It is mere projection.
What has been ignored, unreconciled within will eventually surface and ''spoil'' things.
A dysfuntional person (persona) does not equal a functional individual. Personality is window dressing - a fiction that needs maintenance. Individuality (indivisibe within) is harmony within oneself and there is no need to maintain; when one takes on roles or ... (personality (ies) one can relate and still be ok cos one is already within onself intergrated. Once that role or .. is fulfilled one eschews it and abides to being an individual. The intelligent one is a synthesis of both, neither rejecting nor accepting but simply abiding when and if the need arises. It is intuitive and it presuppposes understanding of oneself.
A dysfuntional adult is a dysfuntional relationship, a dsyfuntional marriage and lest one overlooks - inexorably it will result in a dysfunctional child or child-raising!
Two adult individuals can relate and still evolve into a ... Two adult personalites will have to constantly try to fit, to compromise and cut corners to stay or sustain .... The former frees, the latter binds.
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Originally posted by Fugazzi:
When one is dysfunctional and one tries to not deal with it or reconcile to the conflict(s) within oneself, the tendency is to heap with externalities like dressing up, academic achievements, money and .... but it is mere ''window dressing''. It is mere projection.
What has been ignored, unreconciled within will eventually surface and ''spoil'' things.
A dysfuntional person (persona) does not equal a functional individual. Personality is window dressing - a fiction that needs maintenance. Individuality (indivisibe within) is harmony within oneself and there is no need to maintain; when one takes on roles or ... (personality (ies) one can relate and still be ok cos one is already within onself intergrated. Once that role or .. is fulfilled one eschews it and abides to being an individual. The intelligent one is a synthesis of both, neither rejecting nor accepting but simply abiding when and if the need arises. It is intuitive and it presuppposes understanding of oneself.
A dysfuntional adult is a dysfuntional relationship, a dsyfuntional marriage and lest one overlooks - inexorably it will result in a dysfunctional child or child-raising!
Two adult individuals can relate and still evolve into a ... Two adult personalites will have to constantly try to fit, to compromise and cut corners to stay or sustain .... The former frees, the latter binds.
Fren, everybody is dysfunctional. That is what make us so human. There is no such thing as perfection. The only question is: Is someone more dysfunctional than others in that they turn psychotic? Like Miss Bonkers who suffers from halucinations, panaranoia, schizophrenia and hatred for fair weather men like me? Miss Bonkers suffer from envyness of men like me, who have abundance opportunity to venture and see other women and have the joy of love. While Miss Bonkers is deprived, suffers from low self esteem and a need to ridicule others to boost its female ego.