My gf have a horrible attitude
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Concession guys will do most thing once their wanting to have sex come once or twice a day, it is the best time to act or chop them as hard as possible when they are going thru this cycle.
Prove to him that this is a equal gender society where most girl rules over guys
If guy wants power, give it to them, the most they can last only 20 minutes. But before that, make them into submission, on kneels or crawling or whatever, just get them to submit to you before the 20 minutes countdown begin.
For gals, during guy horny cycle, they use the other head to think, which is their stupid head.
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dude,dump her!You deserve someone better!I know it's easy said than done but for a better future of you being happy just leave her!It will hurt a lot but really there are better grils out there that deserve your love!
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one look and this is not wife material
so when are u going to wake up your idea? -
you already past the "bao rong" stage..you are "zhong rong" her, which she will take it for granted..if she say she will suicide then let her be..why bother about her stupidity?i hate woman with fuck up attitude..once n awhile still ok..everyday?
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Originally posted by Yingjunminx:
okay, i have a gf for 1 1/2 years now. and from the start until now, she have never treated me nice or right.But in the past i usually tolerated it, for i love her alot and i believe deep down she loves me too, but now, im emotionally drained.
In the beginning, while she was with me, she kept thinking of her ex-bf and need him to stay by her side like SMS her meet her often etc. to the extend of sending him i miss you so much kinda msges. At those times i wanted to leave, but she kept holding me back, saying she need me as well. We quarreled and fought over this but in the end, she gave him up, in that romantic kind of way. but theyare neutral friends now.
After that issue, i thought everything was going to be fine but it was just the beginning. As we grew closer, her true colours came out. She would attitude me or not respond to me talking to her for absolutely no reason or for minor reasons like for eg. me giving her the wrong color of the towels or if i cant hear what she is saying cause sometimes she talks really dam soft. We have occasional quarrels over this and the cycle always goes like this. She starts throwing tantrum > me Confronting her > She throws even bigger longer tantrums > until i have to apologize and wait for 3-7days til she cools down.
Then, she got a part time job at the same company as me, but different working locations. Every morning, she would throw tantrum and give attitude because i am not ready preparing, or prepare slower than her every morning (She lives with me). and the reason she gives is I didnt pack her bag for her, or she is tired sleepy. Until i had enough, i started feeling numb and not giving a dam. but she noticed my change, i really wanted a clean break but she kept threatening me with suicide and stuff like that and kept forcing me to take off to accompany her but i really cant.until i quitted my job as i cannot take the pressure.
After that incident, feeling guilty of the way i treated her during the phase in the above paragraph, i treated her even better than i used to, and no confrontation nothing if she starts her nonsense. i just 'bao rong' embrace her. And she had never done anything for me before, even if i ask her to pass me a tissue something like that. this continued until recently.
Today. For the past week she've been throwing tantrums in the morning, like that period of time she went to work (now shes studying) and throwing tantrums after school for being tired. i really cant take this anymore. until a few days ago, i couldnt take off on her off day(from private school), she started contacting her another ex-bf whom they had a physical r/s with. meaning just sexual. I couldnt take it. As i do not have any evidence, (she would say, we are just friends what now.) i cant say anything, but because of me not being able to accompany her for one day. she have to do this to me. Dear forummers, what should i do????
SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLS...
I will brutely honest: as much as you have painted yourself an exiguous picture of a victim suppressed by his gf - there are also significant returns you are getting out of this - a 'familiar' relationship of 20 months living together and probably regular sex. Seemed like you are experiencing poignant frustration and your so called 'sacrifices' are somewhat 'a bad trade off', which you probably find that this deal might be 'overvalued' and you paying more than the initial forecast. Therefore, even subjected to overwhelming trivial nonsenses hurled by her, or greater issues with her ex, you quietly accept the outcome (although not without protest or reluctancy).
Blatantly, you are not happy in this relationship. But you accepted anyway.
Her series of tests are not random; these are exhibited because the men before you largely conditioned her to believe that it is her prerogative to behave as such; in simple, she is 'rewarded' in some ways for displaying bad attitude and reinforced by unconscious habit and personality - changing that might be akin to moving mountains. You can start by taking away small stones, but chances are, you might have died of heatstroke before you can witness transformation.
You have to decide if this is an issue with compatibility or you are simply staying put because of habitual reasoning. Only then, you will know what you want to do about it and figure out your plans on how to go about executing it.
Cheers
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forget about their attitudes as they have been spoiled and condoned under our framework........
just celebrate the rise of singles and foreigners...
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...and the arrival of opposition
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Just dump your GF and get someone that is pleasant.
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Originally posted by DRC:
I really believe that you love this girl very much and I respect that.
Sadly your gf does not treat you as her true love.
I had a friend just like you and your gf, he lasted 12 long and painfull years.
In the end he caught his gf making out in the bushes with his best friend.
When he yell at his gf and asked her why she did it. She just say "whatever" and she just countinue on having fun.
To TS if you can stand your gf having sex with another guy in front of you and feel nothing about it and can pretend that is normal for a gf to act like this, then I can only say good luck and will ask others here not to waste their time on you.
Btw my friend jump and died cos he could not take it and the gf just laugh at him for being such a fool and went on with her life.
I do not wish to see another bro suffer like my friend did.
Is up to you to put an end to this and no one could help you but yourself.
this thing also happen to a guy named Aliviss Kong
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Life must take it easy...what is urs is urs....dun force anything...><"
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Have a good heart to heart talk about it. Tell her politely that you are affected drastically about her behaviour and attitude....If she still dun wanna correct herself, just leave her lor!
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As the years gone by, it'll be even harder to leave her....tell her she make u suffering....if she loves u and amend her ways, good. If not, just leave her....
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Originally posted by Yingjunminx:
Okay thanks. I will consider the break up but i need to know the answer.
because in my opinion if she deep down somewhere truly loves me, i wont let her go. its hard to find 2 person who loves each other
anyway i really treat her 100% best, sacrifices, love everything i gave her. so why wont she put me as the best in her heart
and seriously ive seen all her ex and everything, I have to admit im hotter than all of them. so not bragging, but ive actually trounce every single man in her life, but why she still treats me like this?
It could be either:
(i) She is an indecisive person when it comes to heart's matter.
(ii)She needs pampering and attention from you, when you can't do so, she thought you've somebody else in your heart and hence reacting in such a way. She could have low self esteem and fixated with insecurities.
Tell her honestly and straight forward that you feel uncomfortable that she kept contacting her ex-bfs. Tell her how you've felt. Perhaps she doesn't know and not aware that you're feeling unhappy about it. It's best not to bottle the unhappiness inside your heart. After relating to her all these, hopefully she would know how to rectify the problem if she genuinely cares about you.
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Originally posted by DRC:
I really believe that you love this girl very much and I respect that.
Sadly your gf does not treat you as her true love.
I had a friend just like you and your gf, he lasted 12 long and painfull years.
In the end he caught his gf making out in the bushes with his best friend.
When he yell at his gf and asked her why she did it. She just say "whatever" and she just countinue on having fun.
To TS if you can stand your gf having sex with another guy in front of you and feel nothing about it and can pretend that is normal for a gf to act like this, then I can only say good luck and will ask others here not to waste their time on you.
Btw my friend jump and died cos he could not take it and the gf just laugh at him for being such a fool and went on with her life.
I do not wish to see another bro suffer like my friend did.
Is up to you to put an end to this and no one could help you but yourself.
It is very sad to hear this. May that gal get struck by lightning or get haunted by your friend's spirit. :-X
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What's the status of your relationship? Have you reason with her yet?
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status: Single
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Originally posted by angel7030:
status: Single
Single is good leh....total freedom! Make more frens in case you got lonely...Hahaha!
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and also can book single room, takes single seat, single cone ice cream, single shot of whisky or tequila or strong coffee, can go anywhere to have a single meal and single ticket.
more importantly, me being single can still attract lots of potential guys to love or chop.
Single forever!! We the citizen of Singapore, pledge ourselves as one united single citizen, base on single seat election, justice and equality....
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drink my single shot expresso first...
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Originally posted by angel7030:
and also can book single room, takes single seat, single cone ice cream, single shot of whisky or tequila or strong coffee, can go anywhere to have a single meal and single ticket.
more importantly, me being single can still attract lots of potential guys to love or chop.
Single forever!! We the citizen of Singapore, pledge ourselves as one united single citizen, base on single seat election, justice and equality....
Have you "chopped" any guy $ before?
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Originally posted by Demon Bane:
Have you "chopped" any guy $ before?
I would said that i dun hv to spend a single cents when i go out with guys. To take $ from them, guess they are more poorer than me, still taking mrt and buses...chay! -
Originally posted by angel7030:
I would said that i dun hv to spend a single cents when i go out with guys. To take $ from them, guess they are more poorer than me, still taking mrt and buses...chay!That's quite true
! You are an entrepreneur and have good biz....hard to find somebody richer than you ! -
Originally posted by Demon Bane:
That's quite true
! You are an entrepreneur and have good biz....hard to find somebody richer than you !
no lah, i dun look down on people, just that some good looking guy who dated me, I accepted, and when going home time, they offer to send me back by cab or mrt, I feel so bad to tell them that I go a BMW waiting at the basement carpark A1, i scare it will scare them away, so i take their offer to ride the mrt with them, the next thing I worried is that if he see my tembling ave private house, he may feel so down, so usually I just said Haig Road those 2 room HDB flat, at the void deck, I stopped him from coming up, cos that is not my house. But you know guy lah, still want to chit chat with me, so we hang out awhile at the void deck. When he left, i call a cab to bring me back to the shopping centre to take my car. Rich also troublesome hor. -
Originally posted by angel7030:
no lah, i dun look down on people, just that some good looking guy who dated me, I accepted, and when going home time, they offer to send me back by cab or mrt, I feel so bad to tell them that I go a BMW waiting at the basement carpark A1, i scare it will scare them away, so i take their offer to ride the mrt with them, the next thing I worried is that if he see my tembling ave private house, he may feel so down, so usually I just said Haig Road those 2 room HDB flat, at the void deck, I stopped him from coming up, cos that is not my house. But you know guy lah, still want to chit chat with me, so we hang out awhile at the void deck. When he left, i call a cab to bring me back to the shopping centre to take my car. Rich also troublesome hor.Wah what a story....actually you dun need to hide your car mah....maybe he dun mind leh? If you go out with him more often, sooner or later he will know that you're richer than him leh....
