My gf have a horrible attitude
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one word i can describe your gf - unstable. Just break la. When with you go and screw another guy. What the hell :)
Or u can choose to marry her and when u have children, tell them that mama screwed another man when I was with her.
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Is she the person you wanna live with for the next maybe 50 years?
Can she bring out the best in you?
Can you both solve problems together?
Do you feel threatened by her often?
Does being with her bring you joy and peace?
Can she make your home a sweet one after you both get married?
Can you come home to have a good rest facing her after a tiring work day after marriage?
Is she someone you can have total trust in?
Is she someone you can confide in and have a heart-to -heart talk?
After you answer all the above questions, you should know what you should do.
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just ask her to fuk off
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Ts,
I dont know how old you are and it is palpable that love is non-existent excepting the mutual benefit scheme that both of u accrued from going into these so-called relationship. The scheme is not working and it is bound to flounder.
Getting out is easy but unlearning is essential. She is not wrong, you are not wrong. Two heads (minds) can only compromise and try to relate. In other words, use and be used like things and put aside. Relationship is a thing - dead. It is only alive when two persons relate.
Sadly, heads collide (egos!) and hearts relate. Love abides and always does absenting reasons and fears. Otherwise, it is not love but something else interpreted as love or the needs/expectations masquerading as love.
Being self-honest and it may avail you of ''answers''.
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No offence but you sound like dating xiao mei mei. You got house, got job = got money.
I don't know how old you are but you can easily get another gf imo. She's only like a parasite sucking onto you. Maybe she needs a place to stay that's why she stuck with you.
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Major problem here is that they are both staying together thus making the breaking-up a little more harder. The girl must leave, both must bear the temporal pain in adjusting to life without each other.That will take time. After that, they can live normally again.That will be better than being married and living in hellish state together forever after.
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So basically, you're showing us how she ain't worth it, and how your relationship isn't sustainable in the long run?
My guess is, you already know what's best for you.
Quit hesistating and get down to it. She doesn't deserve you, and if you're the kind of guy who can put up with all her nonsense, then there's definitely going to be a better girl coming your way sooner or later.
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First understand that she will never change.
She will always find fault and quarrel with people close to her. Thats her nature. There's nothing you can do about her.
But you can do something for yourself.
Do you want a life of being bullied by her all the time? If yes, stay with her, if no better split and just be neutral friends with her too.
A person is entitled to a peaceful life. Need not be happy all the time, just peaceful is good enough. You can't even get that with her.
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break la. you are worth more. get a better one and dump this piece of junk.
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Originally posted by Yingjunminx:
okay, i have a gf for 1 1/2 years now. and from the start until now, she have never treated me nice or right.But in the past i usually tolerated it, for i love her alot and i believe deep down she loves me too, but now, im emotionally drained.
In the beginning, while she was with me, she kept thinking of her ex-bf and need him to stay by her side like SMS her meet her often etc. to the extend of sending him i miss you so much kinda msges. At those times i wanted to leave, but she kept holding me back, saying she need me as well. We quarreled and fought over this but in the end, she gave him up, in that romantic kind of way. but theyare neutral friends now.
After that issue, i thought everything was going to be fine but it was just the beginning. As we grew closer, her true colours came out. She would attitude me or not respond to me talking to her for absolutely no reason or for minor reasons like for eg. me giving her the wrong color of the towels or if i cant hear what she is saying cause sometimes she talks really dam soft. We have occasional quarrels over this and the cycle always goes like this. She starts throwing tantrum > me Confronting her > She throws even bigger longer tantrums > until i have to apologize and wait for 3-7days til she cools down.
Then, she got a part time job at the same company as me, but different working locations. Every morning, she would throw tantrum and give attitude because i am not ready preparing, or prepare slower than her every morning (She lives with me). and the reason she gives is I didnt pack her bag for her, or she is tired sleepy. Until i had enough, i started feeling numb and not giving a dam. but she noticed my change, i really wanted a clean break but she kept threatening me with suicide and stuff like that and kept forcing me to take off to accompany her but i really cant.until i quitted my job as i cannot take the pressure.
After that incident, feeling guilty of the way i treated her during the phase in the above paragraph, i treated her even better than i used to, and no confrontation nothing if she starts her nonsense. i just 'bao rong' embrace her. And she had never done anything for me before, even if i ask her to pass me a tissue something like that. this continued until recently.
Today. For the past week she've been throwing tantrums in the morning, like that period of time she went to work (now shes studying) and throwing tantrums after school for being tired. i really cant take this anymore. until a few days ago, i couldnt take off on her off day(from private school), she started contacting her another ex-bf whom they had a physical r/s with. meaning just sexual. I couldnt take it. As i do not have any evidence, (she would say, we are just friends what now.) i cant say anything, but because of me not being able to accompany her for one day. she have to do this to me. Dear forummers, what should i do????
SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLS...
obviously your kok is too small
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Originally posted by Rambo Wong:
obviously your kok is too small
Your answer make sense, no wonder so many girls love me so much. Everytime I say break up, they say they want to die because this world cannot find a better guy with such nice kok, better than vibrator... -
wa loa so simple stop talking to her and ignore her like she is not there lor.....
than u can continue to ignore her for months and go out with other girls.....
if she don't get the message.....she is not worth your time.
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Okay thanks guys i know what to do.
On the age part, She is a few months older than me. 24 each.
On the kok is too small bit, she did say mine was bigger than the rest and i can satisfy her. but lol what randomness.
But there was something strange that happened last night, she treated me fairly better than average when i asked her 'what are you so mad about? she shouted at me nothing! and a few hours later, 360degree change.
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Originally posted by Yingjunminx:
Okay thanks guys i know what to do.
On the age part, She is a few months older than me. 24 each.
On the kok is too small bit, she did say mine was bigger than the rest and i can satisfy her. but lol what randomness.
But there was something strange that happened last night, she treated me fairly better than average when i asked her 'what are you so mad about? she shouted at me nothing! and a few hours later, 360degree change.
1. Your GF has mental issues is it?
2. Its obvious she had sex with some ex-BFs even while with u. (U can live with that??)
3. Why u still with her ? Afraid of being lonely?
4. This is certainly not the marriage type....dun waste time....just ditch her lah....
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Bro, u sound like a
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nah im not lonely. i honestly had alot of friends and girls and a normal social life. but chose to settle down with her. i can have all that back but its different.
I dont have proof she did cheat on me, but she did have sex with them before me. i doubt she did while we were together
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Originally posted by Demon Bane:
1. Your GF has mental issues is it?
2. Its obvious she had sex with some ex-BFs even while with u. (U can live with that??)
3. Why u still with her ? Afraid of being lonely?
4. This is certainly not the marriage type....dun waste time....just ditch her lah....
5. Very likely she will sleep with her ex-BFs even after married to u!
6. I dun think she loves u at all....she obviously need her ex-BFs more than u.
In short, ditch her fast before she hurts u further.
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All things are beautiful from the perceptive of a perceivable heart.
There is no right nor wrong, it only tangibility.
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Originally posted by Yingjunminx:
nah im not lonely. i honestly had alot of friends and girls and a normal social life. but chose to settle down with her. i can have all that back but its different.
I dont have proof she did cheat on me, but she did have sex with them before me. i doubt she did while we were together
Seriously u are going to settle down with her? Can u live with the notion that she had many ex-BFs? Absolutely sure??
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Originally posted by Yingjunminx:
okay, i have a gf for 1 1/2 years now. and from the start until now, she have never treated me nice or right.But in the past i usually tolerated it, for i love her alot and i believe deep down she loves me too, but now, im emotionally drained.
In the beginning, while she was with me, she kept thinking of her ex-bf and need him to stay by her side like SMS her meet her often etc. to the extend of sending him i miss you so much kinda msges. At those times i wanted to leave, but she kept holding me back, saying she need me as well. We quarreled and fought over this but in the end, she gave him up, in that romantic kind of way. but theyare neutral friends now.
After that issue, i thought everything was going to be fine but it was just the beginning. As we grew closer, her true colours came out. She would attitude me or not respond to me talking to her for absolutely no reason or for minor reasons like for eg. me giving her the wrong color of the towels or if i cant hear what she is saying cause sometimes she talks really dam soft. We have occasional quarrels over this and the cycle always goes like this. She starts throwing tantrum > me Confronting her > She throws even bigger longer tantrums > until i have to apologize and wait for 3-7days til she cools down.
Then, she got a part time job at the same company as me, but different working locations. Every morning, she would throw tantrum and give attitude because i am not ready preparing, or prepare slower than her every morning (She lives with me). and the reason she gives is I didnt pack her bag for her, or she is tired sleepy. Until i had enough, i started feeling numb and not giving a dam. but she noticed my change, i really wanted a clean break but she kept threatening me with suicide and stuff like that and kept forcing me to take off to accompany her but i really cant.until i quitted my job as i cannot take the pressure.
After that incident, feeling guilty of the way i treated her during the phase in the above paragraph, i treated her even better than i used to, and no confrontation nothing if she starts her nonsense. i just 'bao rong' embrace her. And she had never done anything for me before, even if i ask her to pass me a tissue something like that. this continued until recently.
Today. For the past week she've been throwing tantrums in the morning, like that period of time she went to work (now shes studying) and throwing tantrums after school for being tired. i really cant take this anymore. until a few days ago, i couldnt take off on her off day(from private school), she started contacting her another ex-bf whom they had a physical r/s with. meaning just sexual. I couldnt take it. As i do not have any evidence, (she would say, we are just friends what now.) i cant say anything, but because of me not being able to accompany her for one day. she have to do this to me. Dear forummers, what should i do????
SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLS...
Ying Jung Minx,
You are her REBOUND boyfriend.
You understand the meaning of REBOUND boyfriend ?
I used to treat my REBOUND boyfriend the SAME way she is treating you now.
When the one she really "wants" come along, you will be HISTORY.
And no, she won't treat "the one" the same way she treats you.
She will do the opposite.
You are still very important because You are her DOORMAT, she needs someone to clean off her dirty boots on.
Simple enough ? Ok Good.
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pining whiny girls are the worst.
break now or it will get even harder as every day goes by.
then let time heal the wounds
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to ts:
a pretty fuck is not worth a lifetime's misery
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
You are her REBOUND boyfriend.
You understand the meaning of REBOUND boyfriend ?
I used to treat my REBOUND boyfriend the SAME way she is treating you now.
your rebound last 1.5 years?
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She gave me the impression that she needed you on occasions to do something for her. Her wildful personalities does not match you unless you are a tolerant kind-of-person. Worst, the final straw is she made a cuckoo out of you when you are unable to take a day leave to have sex with her.
This relationship is childish...
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One gets treated in life the way one unwittingly teaches another or others to do so. Having said that, to simply apportion blame on this gal ( who is not privy to what is posted here) and conclude by labelling her as being ... is uwise.
When I judge another, the other is a mere excuse - the reality is what I am is being revealed thru my words here - i m defining myself. It is the same for TS.
It would have one in good stead if one is willing to unlearn one''s ways and in that transformation, behaviour the other will know and might understand. As to whether to stay or not stay is something the heart never lies. It is intuitive and it is risky but one has to consider the fallout - the mutual benefit scheme may have one caught in a web of inextricable emotional and ... needs/expectations. Being self-honest might avail one to ''answers'' .
Making oneself right by making another wrong does not in any way enhance onself or another.
It is denigration of another and insulting oneself. Beware the ego's ways!