Help! Possessive girlfriend is killing me!!
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I have a gf for 2 yrs .We are same age,25.She always accuses me of seeing girls and doing msn with them. I am not allowed to see my guy buddies for drinks. I was ok when we started but now I feel she is like a nuisance to my life. But break-up with her she will cry like hell.I am sick and tired.
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dump and go.
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how long u wanna torture yourself? if cannot resolve matters properly, how are you two gonna live as a couple after marriage?
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Talk to her nicely. Explain to her that you need freedom as well. Ask her to give trust to you. And of course you yourself dont cross over the line lah
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You do not know love and not a gentleman as well. She is a girl and you develop problem in your love to see "girl". It is an excuse that you want to break up and asking for support. You are really a sick man.
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Originally posted by Manchesterdude1:
I have a gf for 2 yrs .We are same age,25.She always accuses me of seeing girls and doing msn with them. I am not allowed to see my guy buddies for drinks. I was ok when we started but now I feel she is like a nuisance to my life. But break-up with her she will cry like hell.I am sick and tired.
It's ok, you deserved it.Who ask you to go after her in the first place?
So you deserved it, go and suck thumb please.
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Enjoy all the things you want with her and dump her when you are sick of her.
Find yourself a new girlfriend and she will move on.
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Break up and gain freedom !! If u still need a GF, get somebody that is more understanding next time.
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If you choose not to leave cos of the reasons cited above, the so-called relationship is headed for more trouble than you (n she included) might imagine.
Frankly, she does not love you or has unwittingly misintrepreted needs/expectations/attachment to be ... and it is parading/ masquerading as love. It is understandable if you are ''fooling'' around or ''misbehaving'' which has her accusing or being suspicious. Of course, it is presumptious as only you and her are privy to what transpired or what is being communicated.
However, it does not detract from what is true - intuitively, i would surmise that it is not love but needs and insecurity. The commonality of giving assurance and security to another is a myth and usually both in the ... eventually suffer.
It is ok to leave cos it is stultifying you but being self-honest and most of all assuming responsibility for what you feel is essentially being wise and mature. She may be difficult, insecure but to apportion blame is unwise.
I would suggest communication and stating your stance, your preferences and if they are sadly only words; words dont change and never changes anything. it is thru one's behaviour that changes or better still, transformation happens. We always teach another or others how to treat us thru our behaviour(s)!
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Try marrying her and live together.
You chat/meet gal friends, she'll say you have an affair.
You lim kopi with guy friends, she'll say you're gay.
You watch TV/play games, she'll say you not spend enough time with her.
You try to be with her, she'll say you didn't talk to her enough.
You ask for sex, she'll ask why you always want.
You don't ask for sex, she say you'll have an affair outside.
Try be with her for the rest of your life, it'll be fun :)
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Just break up with her...tell her that if she truly loves u...she will let you go...let her know that leaving her will make you a much happier person...and if she call or sms you just ignore her....down the road eventually she will get the idea and stop bothering you....simple as that...no point getting miserable when u are in a relationship.....life is too short....live it the way you want it....dun ever think u need to answer to anyone and make your life miserable...><"
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Originally posted by Manchesterdude1:
I have a gf for 2 yrs .We are same age,25.She always accuses me of seeing girls and doing msn with them. I am not allowed to see my guy buddies for drinks. I was ok when we started but now I feel she is like a nuisance to my life. But break-up with her she will cry like hell.I am sick and tired.
No, more like you break up with her.. YOU will cry like hell.
So you want to see girl.. you want to MSN girls.. then why have a GF ?
Be single better, no one to call you darling.. no one to kiss you good night.. no one to sayang you . You like that ? Then dump her lor.
Wanna be in a relationship.. you gota play by the rules.
Can't have your cake and eat it too, OK ? Good.
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Oh my, Possessive isn't a good word to begin with. I was once possessive.Which after I learn and grow from all my relationship. Boy Girl Relationship is some sort relevant like Parents - kids Relationship and it have the same theory with the " meat dumpling " When Making a dumpling you have to make sure you put in the correct amount of rice and ingredients not too much not too little , else the outcome will be not nice.Or when you put the right amount of ingredient when the finishing part you got to use a string to tighten it. You cannot wrap too loose or too tight else the dumpling won't get cooked. Its the same when it comes to relationship.When mum controls kids too much the more he/she wanna be rebel.There goes the same for boy girl relationship.When the either party controls too much , the one that is suffering and wanted to get out of it because he/she feel breathless. This is not even called relationship anymore. For me , when it comes to relationship i make sure the person with me feels comfortable without any stress. That's what it should be and when it comes to social life must be mutual. He can go out with his friends , i can go out with my friends. Be it guy or girl , just let me know and I'm okay. So Manchesterdude1, either u continue to be with her to keep suffering or move on to find a better girl. If you don't feel comfortable with her just end it. Don't waste time anymore. She have totally no right to control you. I don't believe in controlling in relationship. She have to think in your shoes. If you control her , will she like it ? Its the same thing. So yup. All these are my 2 cents worth..
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let her cry lor.how long she gonna cry?1 year or 2 year?come on let her cry 1 or 2 days and she will stop crying.u wan her to suffer 2 day or u suffer for life?
don tell me u don wanna break cos u still wan the hole.
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just end it lah.
not happy no point.
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Originally posted by Manchesterdude1:
I have a gf for 2 yrs .We are same age,25.She always accuses me of seeing girls and doing msn with them. I am not allowed to see my guy buddies for drinks. I was ok when we started but now I feel she is like a nuisance to my life. But break-up with her she will cry like hell.I am sick and tired.
Only option: Break off with her since you are sick and tired of her nagging and very prosessive lady. No point being together if your partner cannot give and take. -
Originally posted by likeyou:
Only option: Break off with her since you are sick and tired of her nagging and very prosessive lady. No point being together if your partner cannot give and take.Find him another girl who doesn't nag or isn't possessive. If she even exist..
A girl who doesn't care if her partner is cheating or not.. is most likely a cheater herself.
Good luck finding the unicorn.
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Aiyo
if she dun wan break up
u juz tell her
i wan my freedom/frens/privacy back
if she dont allowed
juz break up .....
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possessive? does she possess?
think u might need some exocism...
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Originally posted by ^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~:
possessive? does she possess?
think u might need some exocism...
Possesive as in , dun want to share with other girls lah.
TS wants to start a harem you see.
One man , many woman.
Dream on lah.
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that sounds like my wife lol. She wants to follow wherever I go, cannot leave me alone and then when i tell her i want some peace with friends, she asks me if my future is with my friends or with her. hahaha. what to do, married man is married man.
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Originally posted by Rock^Star:
that sounds like my wife lol. She wants to follow wherever I go, cannot leave me alone and then when i tell her i want some peace with friends, she asks me if my future is with my friends or with her. hahaha. what to do, married man is married man.
Same here bro...... i know how you feel EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!
but now she better liao............ can join friends drink coffee at nearby kopi diam.....
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Lucky i never kenna this type of sticky glue girls before...if not i sure buy one kite for her ask her go to the field and fly...being married does not mean staying in prison...><"
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u think so easy ah, buy one kite and that settles it. Married leh lol. Committment not only to her but also to her family and vice versa.
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If there are constant wars and fights in a relationship, it is best to end it before you both are married. A relationship should be one that both parties find comfort and happiness in each other. Yours, I forsee will be one with loads of unrest .Do you both have a mutual friend who can maybe intervene and tell her to move on? She may cry and whine now but it is better that she accepts reality now and move on, than to whine and cry for the rest of her life with you.Never marry someone whom you cannot solve problems with right from the start. It will be hellish life journey for both of you by then.