why he rejects me before even knowing me in person?

• mancha

  12 Dec 10, 01:45

  Originally posted by bearie000:

  becos i keep experiencing rejection

  No.. becos you keep remembering rejection.

  Strike out that bugger, and move on.

• Whimsy

  12 Dec 10, 10:40

  You are so lovely and full of romance but a little too desperate. Those rejecting you were not fated to be commited to you yet. They may be those that would ruin your life in future and are  not destinied for your commited romance.

• seyKai

  12 Dec 10, 12:30

  ever look in the mirror deep enough to ask yourself that question?

• Call4ljw

  12 Dec 10, 12:40

  Originally posted by Whimsy:

  You are so lovely and full of romance but a little too desperate. Those rejecting you were not fated to be commited to you yet. They may be those that would ruin your life in future and are  not destinied for your commited romance.

  How are you so sure that bearie is lovely? lol.

• deathmaster

  12 Dec 10, 13:33

  just ask and get a clear answer.

  if yes, proceed with next stage.

  if no, save your time.

• bearie000

  12 Dec 10, 15:15

  bobian unattractive mah....ppl dont give two cents worth forme...just immediately...cut off
• Essential2468

  12 Dec 10, 15:18

  i got see ugly people also can find good partners. what does that show?

  shows that looks not everything lah.

  build on your inner beauty sure will have pple notice one day. but that one may take longer

  time lah. just see how fate goes lor.

   

  you see the prince charles and camilla? the princess diana so gorgeous yet still lose out to camilla. the prince charles in the end still wants the fugly camilla.and yes...he married her at last, after diana died in car crash.

• bearie000

  12 Dec 10, 15:24

  not true..they know i have a nice personality..but still cross me out
• bearie000

  12 Dec 10, 15:26

  and im crossed out from the start and permanently
• Essential2468

  12 Dec 10, 15:32

  as long as u look better than ruhua and u are not retarded, u still have hope, no worries.

• elindra

  12 Dec 10, 15:42

  Seriously move on. He is not interested

  And men can sense it if you are needy and you seem very clingy and needy to be put bluntly. 

  He may have been interested in a casual fling but  changed his mind about it. 

   

  Just make friends, have fun and stop focusing on starting a romantic relationship and who knows something might just happen

• Essential2468

  12 Dec 10, 15:58

  yar lor, wanting to make friends only and wanting to go steady are 2 different things for this man.dun mix up.dun confuse yourself.let go.if he wants you he will come to u one day. u no need be clingy and only cheapen yourself. what for?

• Call4ljw

  12 Dec 10, 16:47

  Originally posted by bearie000:

  not true..they know i have a nice personality..but still cross me out

  can i get to know you? =)

• PedoBear

  16 Dec 10, 10:02

  looking at the situation,
  you guys meet at a dating event
  so he also meet other women

  reason of going to dating event is to find a partner that you like
  so most likely he also ask other women out after the event

  he hinted to you that he might want to hang out with you some day
  so most likely he is more interested in some other women at this point of time

  since he attends dating events, it means that he got a pool of women to choose from
  so he will have a list of women he is interested in

  congrats, you made the list but unfortuntely, you are not at the top of the list
  he will hang out with you some day as he makes his way down the list

  he ask you to consider going out with other guys
  cos he assumes you got your own list and he is at the top of your list

• Essential2468

  16 Dec 10, 10:09

  maybe you got bad breath?

  or body odour?

• Essential2468

  16 Dec 10, 10:11

  I ever know someone with bad breath who liked me.. no choice, I really buay tahan the smell..so the fella gotta face rejection. How to kiss like that?

• Gary oak77

  16 Dec 10, 10:41

  Originally posted by bearie000:

  I joined a dating event recently. He contacted me after the event, stating that he wants to know me better. However, he has never asked me out. During our online conversation, it was just purely casual and he didnt ask me many questions to know me better. However, he would often flirt with me online and hinted that we could hang out one day. I thought he was interested to know me better and had some romantic interest in me. But the date invitation never came.. He only attended a group outing. Many times, he gave excuses.

  I thought that he wanted to go out with me. Hence, i asked him out for dinner, hang-outs on 4 to 5 occasions. He will declined me politely. There was once he agreed but he played me out at the very last minute. Yet despite his rejections, he still continue to suggest that we could hang out some day.

  I am very unhappy and frustrated. He asked me to consider going out with other guys and that why i feel he is suitable for me. I am upset because he hasn't know me in person and yet, he has already written me off based on our 10 minutes conversation in the dating event. In that case, why did he choose to contact me after the event, and still flirt with me? if he is totally does not want to go out with me on an one-to-one basis.

  I thought he is a nice guy and I could know him better, even as a friend. But, he hasnt even know me well and has already rejected me as a person, and totally dismiss me. or the idea of us going out. I am very sad. why is this so?

  
     who cares why, you are probably a  nice person who doesn't deserve to be treated like this. F_K him and forget him. He has been a learning experience

• mistyblue

  16 Dec 10, 17:56

  move on. Count yourself lucky

• yiha093

  17 Dec 10, 02:47

  Originally posted by bearie000:

  I am just weird that he doesnt even know me n has written me off

  maybe he saw ur face ba

  most guys see looks de, no offense?

  my biased views?

• Laverne

  30 Dec 10, 10:23

  1) He apparently isn't interested. This might probably affect your ego a little ;-) but it has happened to most girls, even the really good looking ones.

  2) It doesn't have to be the "looks" of a girl that makes the guy disinterested. Sometimes a guy approaches a girl because he is in fact, attracted by her appearances, but decides later that she isn't suitable afterall. The rule of the dating game for girls is to keep your dignity.

  3) A consolation - If he's pulling a partner out of a list he's made and has already crossed you out, then consider yourself lucky. Because this is just the first step in a relationship and you have a long way to go. If a man is not extremely interested in a woman and simply accepts her basing on her "merits" on his list, he might turn his back on her later on in the relationship once problems start to occur. And problems will definitely occur in relationships. It's only when a man truly loved a woman that he will try to overcome the problems.

• Genie99a

  30 Dec 10, 10:26

  That's life.... win some lose some. Go and meet a new guy and the next time try to fall in love after you have dated a few times instead of falling in love at the slightest hint of a possibility.

• Sallylemons

  31 Dec 10, 00:21

  I think you deserve someone better. You can always use this as a opportunity to improve something about yourself ! CHEER UP!

• angel7030

  31 Dec 10, 11:05

  Originally posted by bearie000:

  I joined a dating event recently. He contacted me after the event, stating that he wants to know me better. However, he has never asked me out. During our online conversation, it was just purely casual and he didnt ask me many questions to know me better. However, he would often flirt with me online and hinted that we could hang out one day. I thought he was interested to know me better and had some romantic interest in me. But the date invitation never came.. He only attended a group outing. Many times, he gave excuses.

  I thought that he wanted to go out with me. Hence, i asked him out for dinner, hang-outs on 4 to 5 occasions. He will declined me politely. There was once he agreed but he played me out at the very last minute. Yet despite his rejections, he still continue to suggest that we could hang out some day.

  I am very unhappy and frustrated. He asked me to consider going out with other guys and that why i feel he is suitable for me. I am upset because he hasn't know me in person and yet, he has already written me off based on our 10 minutes conversation in the dating event. In that case, why did he choose to contact me after the event, and still flirt with me? if he is totally does not want to go out with me on an one-to-one basis.

  I thought he is a nice guy and I could know him better, even as a friend. But, he hasnt even know me well and has already rejected me as a person, and totally dismiss me. or the idea of us going out. I am very sad. why is this so?

  
  You just shame our gal integrity and dignity, as gal, rule nos 1, we should not bow or date guy out, let them do the bowing and kneeling before accepting a date.