Husband in contact with female ex-colleague everyday
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Hi, I'd just like to get some views from u guys. Do u all think it's normal and okay for a married man to be in contact with a female ex-colleague everyday (through whatsapp, sms, and msn)?
He worked in his previous company for about 2 years plus, and all the while he has been talking to her on msn and sms everyday. Even until now, when he has left the company, they are still carrying on. It's a long story...but just like to get your views on the topic above and see whether it is normal...thanks! :)
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talk niecely to him about your concerns.
see how he reacts.
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well........ enage a PI to check loh.
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If only sms, etc...it should be fine.
Especailly if you get to see your hubby home every night (at the same time).
But, if you still feel uncomfortable, then you may try to talk to him at the right time when he feels comfortable.
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everyday in contact? they doing business together or what? how is your relationship with your hubby? i do suspect some forms of affair.can be physical affair, emotional affair or both. but u can have a good talk with your hubby and at least find out what's going on.
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How do u know they are in contact everyday? He told u or just your wild guesses? Probably nothing....maybe his best fren is not u ? Very common what....dun worry too much. Maybe u guys should have a baby together? Or go out more often, dun let him face Msn/online chat too much lah...Also talking to him about your concerns may help.
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He will chat over msn with her at night, so i know he's talking to her. I have talked to him about it, said i was fine if he talked to her like few days a week but everyday is really too much for me. He said it was just a phase and it was nothing.
At first, I accepted what he said and I trained myself to accept it. But later on, i found out some things which showed me that he was very attached to her emotionally...i suppose it's more of an emotional affair than physical affair.
Our relationship is okay i guess...just that sometimes there's nothing to say when we are both at home after work.
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you should be the one he talks to most.grab his hp suddenly one day and see his reactions. if he shows anxiety, you know something is not right.
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It's definitely not normal or okay... this looks like an affair already... btw, he doesn't have to sleep with her to be an affair, an emotional affair is still an affair...
ask him, if you were to do the same with other guys, will it be okay for him... if he treasures you, he will stop doing what will hurt you...
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Maybe the TS can's statisfy her husband sexually so he goes to look for another woman?
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Originally posted by lemontea c(_):
It's definitely not normal or okay... this looks like an affair already... btw, he doesn't have to sleep with her to be an affair, an emotional affair is still an affair...
ask him, if you were to do the same with other guys, will it be okay for him... if he treasures you, he will stop doing what will hurt you...
fully agree with u.
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Originally posted by nandemoii:
He will chat over msn with her at night, so i know he's talking to her. I have talked to him about it, said i was fine if he talked to her like few days a week but everyday is really too much for me. He said it was just a phase and it was nothing.
At first, I accepted what he said and I trained myself to accept it. But later on, i found out some things which showed me that he was very attached to her emotionally...i suppose it's more of an emotional affair than physical affair.
Our relationship is okay i guess...just that sometimes there's nothing to say when we are both at home after work.
Hmmmm everynite...seem like your hubby ex colleague is having some problems at home or at work or family?Ask him can he let me see what you smses? And if he's willing to let you see, probably it is just a friendship relationship, nothing much.
If he feel uncomfortable, then something fishy going on.
Try out this method, try to be tactful towards your hubby. Dont make him feel awkard.
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Maybe hire a PI to check on him
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He just found someone he really can talk to.
Someone he knew would be the wife he wanted.
But he already married and he knows his respondsibility.
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Originally posted by single_alone:
Maybe hire a PI to check on him
No point but if ts hubby started to not going home, stay late and overnight...then either hire pi or talk across the table.
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no wonder chewren nowsdays got so many issues and brush with the law. parents also cannot handle simple problem that's why
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
no wonder chewren nowsdays got so many issues and brush with the law. parents also cannot handle simple problem that's why
husband having an affair also call simple problem? -
What is the differences between Affair and No interest?
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husband got an affair but still got interest in the wife.
if no interest sooner or later will divorce de
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Originally posted by nandemoii:
He will chat over msn with her at night, so i know he's talking to her. I have talked to him about it, said i was fine if he talked to her like few days a week but everyday is really too much for me. He said it was just a phase and it was nothing.
At first, I accepted what he said and I trained myself to accept it. But later on, i found out some things which showed me that he was very attached to her emotionally...i suppose it's more of an emotional affair than physical affair.
Our relationship is okay i guess...just that sometimes there's nothing to say when we are both at home after work.
it ever occur to you that that's how the chase-and-capture goes in most relationships ? ......
first the mind connects .....
then the mind farks .....
before the bodies follow ? ......
got to tell him to cease and desist or else .......
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Originally posted by nandemoii:
Hi, I'd just like to get some views from u guys. Do u all think it's normal and okay for a married man to be in contact with a female ex-colleague everyday (through whatsapp, sms, and msn)?
He worked in his previous company for about 2 years plus, and all the while he has been talking to her on msn and sms everyday. Even until now, when he has left the company, they are still carrying on. It's a long story...but just like to get your views on the topic above and see whether it is normal...thanks! :)
aiyah.............by now you should know they're sleeping behind your back what.............aiyoh.........
i bet they've been screwing each other while they were still working together...............
you damn goondu one leh............
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Nothing you can do about it. Takes two hands to clap.
If you want to be possessive about it, he will feels even more distant away from you and it's not like he will suddenly feel bad and regretful over what he have done.
He knows what he is doing, so you can only believe that their relationship is purely based on friendship. Even if it's not, it's also not your fault because you cannot be the person who is policing the marriage. But let him be very aware of the CONSEQUENCES.
You can also contact your guy friends and socialise with them if you like.
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have more couple time so that his world will not be dominated by that ex-colleague.
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dont need to stay late. lunch at hourly rated hotel can liao. suggest u hire PI if u dont wanna do the dirty work urself.
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Originally posted by gunner77:
He just found someone he really can talk to.
Someone he knew would be the wife he wanted.
But he already married and he knows his respondsibility.
...buyer's remorse?
