Should I confront situation or hide?
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Historical background
I join this co 8 mth ago. I start out project with this lady, she is 25. We did a lot of project together and we spoke a lot, went out dinner as a group, when we werk late. Then I got interested in her and sometime I call her phone to discuss project. I thought she is single. So I decided to ask her out. I text her once. Ask her to eat dinner with me. She answer one day later, she say no with excuse. Then I try again, also same result. Third try, this time I confess I like her. This time she tell me to forget her. fail.
Surprise no.1
Turn out that the girl is going to get married but she never say anything like that to me. For 8 month we work in projects, I thought she was single. Only yesterday I found out she was going to get marry. So how?
Surprise no.2: She is going to marry my cousin. So embarassing. My cousin mother is my mother's younger sister. So how? So how?
I did not know at 1st but when I saw my mother pass me the wedding card and saw her name and picture.
What should I do? Should I ponteng wedding? Should I face the wedding? Will she say bad thing to my relative about me?
I am so headahe now.
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Knn really is damn embrassing.
Hide la.
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
Historical background
I join this co 8 mth ago. I start out project with this lady, she is 25. We did a lot of project together and we spoke a lot, went out dinner as a group, when we werk late. Then I got interested in her and sometime I call her phone to discuss project. I thought she is single. So I decided to ask her out. I text her once. Ask her to eat dinner with me. She answer one day later, she say no with excuse. Then I try again, also same result. Third try, this time I confess I like her. This time she tell me to forget her. fail.
Surprise no.1
Turn out that the girl is going to get married but she never say anything like that to me. For 8 month we work in projects, I thought she was single. Only yesterday I found out she was going to get marry. So how?
Surprise no.2: She is going to marry my cousin. So embarassing. My cousin mother is my mother's younger sister. So how? So how?
I did not know at 1st but when I saw my mother pass me the wedding card and saw her name and picture.
What should I do? Should I ponteng wedding? Should I face the wedding? Will she say bad thing to my relative about me?
I am so headahe now.
Damn, what are the odds?
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Ok, ok.
I help you.
Just tell your cousin what happened.
Explain that you didn't know who she was and it was unintentional.
You all will have a good laugh about it on the wedding day.
Trust me.
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To make things better, you can also tell your cousin that he can trust the woman he is marrying.
Really.
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people grow up. i know of a guy used to be in a very similar situation. later a lot of gals want to reanct the story to get the guy's love. but that's the past and people grow up. so really don't be a foll all over again. got money i spend myself. escently not enough, jobless for many a days alreayd
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Ahem, you all along assumed she was single, you never asked if she was. That was your mistake and downfall, not a surprise.
If I were you, I wouldn't attend that wedding at all cost. Coz frankly, even if she didn't tell any relative, at least one close friend would have got word of it from her, and it is a sure bet that friend won't keep her mouth shut, and sure to attend the wedding. If you want to save your reputation, don't attend it.
Rule in life, colleagues should remain only colleagues regardless of how close you get together. Draw that line, and your life will be fine.
Anyway, your biggest mistake here was to assume, and that led to everything else. I always thought NS would have taught you one thing. When in doubt, ask.
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Originally posted by ditzy:
Ahem, you all along assumed she was single, you never asked if she was. That was your mistake and downfall, not a surprise.
If I were you, I wouldn't attend that wedding at all cost. Coz frankly, even if she didn't tell any relative, at least one close friend would have got word of it from her, and it is a sure bet that friend won't keep her mouth shut, and sure to attend the wedding. If you want to save your reputation, don't attend it.
Rule in life, colleagues should remain only colleagues regardless of how close you get together. Draw that line, and your life will be fine.
Anyway, your biggest mistake here was to assume, and that led to everything else. I always thought NS would have taught you one thing. When in doubt, ask.
Ouch.
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is this tw drama or korean drama?
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
Historical background
I join this co 8 mth ago. I start out project with this lady, she is 25. We did a lot of project together and we spoke a lot, went out dinner as a group, when we werk late. Then I got interested in her and sometime I call her phone to discuss project. I thought she is single. So I decided to ask her out. I text her once. Ask her to eat dinner with me. She answer one day later, she say no with excuse. Then I try again, also same result. Third try, this time I confess I like her. This time she tell me to forget her. fail.
Surprise no.1
Turn out that the girl is going to get married but she never say anything like that to me. For 8 month we work in projects, I thought she was single. Only yesterday I found out she was going to get marry. So how?
Surprise no.2: She is going to marry my cousin. So embarassing. My cousin mother is my mother's younger sister. So how? So how?
I did not know at 1st but when I saw my mother pass me the wedding card and saw her name and picture.
What should I do? Should I ponteng wedding? Should I face the wedding? Will she say bad thing to my relative about me?
I am so headahe now.
Sounds like some plot from those soap operas
But seriously how long you gonna hide? Sooner or later you'll probably still have come face to face to her.There's really not much you can do since she's gonna get married.You'll just have move on I guess.Just my 2 cents worth
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Originally posted by TehJarVu:
is this tw drama or korean drama?
probably korean I know it is rude to laugh but I simply can't help it -
The "blown off" guy. Haiz
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This is like some drama show.
I will suggest a GPGT of the Wedding Invitation!
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Mmmmm............... juz attend and act blur ba............... don tink the girl will tell your cousin........
my 2 cents
eh........... you don go, relatives will ask..... and maybe eventually things will leak out.......
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i think she will be more embarrassed than you ....
why should you hide..be a man...isn't it a natural course of things for a guy to fall for a gal...if any gal think the guy should have checked all encumbrances before falling in love....then i would say she is nuts...
go for th wedding and offer your best wishes....all the best romantic secrets have always been buried with the fondest memories and if u like ....turn it into a humour...life is filled with ironic humours....life is full of love's labour lost....
get on and find a much better gal
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I think u should congradulate her personnally and tell her that you are now relative....lah and move on....!!!
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marry still can divorce one, go for it bro!
no la, if you not buddy buddy with your cousin, best just hide.
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
Historical background
I join this co 8 mth ago. I start out project with this lady, she is 25. We did a lot of project together and we spoke a lot, went out dinner as a group, when we werk late. Then I got interested in her and sometime I call her phone to discuss project. I thought she is single. So I decided to ask her out. I text her once. Ask her to eat dinner with me. She answer one day later, she say no with excuse. Then I try again, also same result. Third try, this time I confess I like her. This time she tell me to forget her. fail.
Surprise no.1
Turn out that the girl is going to get married but she never say anything like that to me. For 8 month we work in projects, I thought she was single. Only yesterday I found out she was going to get marry. So how?
Surprise no.2: She is going to marry my cousin. So embarassing. My cousin mother is my mother's younger sister. So how? So how?
I did not know at 1st but when I saw my mother pass me the wedding card and saw her name and picture.
What should I do? Should I ponteng wedding? Should I face the wedding? Will she say bad thing to my relative about me?
I am so headahe now.
Don't talk about it to anyone, she also won't mention it to anyone.She might get a shock during the wedding but that's about all.
Just forget about the AWKWARD FEELING and MOVE ON.
And this incident will become nothing more than just a whisper in the wind.
And I have no wish to babysit your own self-created worries because I know they are unnecessary.
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never mind can wait for their daugther grow up.
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
never mind can wait for their daugther grow up.
if got son how
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我问天, 我问天........................
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She sounds like she has enough tact not to tell anyone about it, not even to her would-be husband, so don't worry too much.
Regarding to attend the wedding or not, ask your other family members to proceed onwards while you excuse yourself claiming to attend your "close friend's wedding" on that day.
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Breaking news
Yesterday night my parents went to my cousin parents apmt to help them with wedding preparation and to talk. Since we live nearby. I also tumpang.
I found courage to overcome my paisehness and told everything to my cousin. He did not give any reaction, he just keep quiet and went back to his chores. The girl was not there. When I try to talk to him, he pretended to be busy and give me one word answer. So inconvenient to talk because all the relative around. I could not get chance to isolate him alone and talk to him. I scared relatives will hear.
I am now so worry. What to do now? My cousin is giving me silent treatment.