help..

• parn

  10 Dec 10, 16:27

  Originally posted by russiabear:

  alamak. girl only do that when they scared of losing you lah. just show her u care for her. never mind all the bad things she say. just keep saying u love her, whatever the situation. can liao.

  
  Wow...really?

  Dangerous advice you are giving to TS.

• littlemissbonkers

  10 Dec 10, 21:01

  -.-

  So young, so complicated

  Just do whatever you think you'll least regret in future la

   

• zwiFany

  11 Dec 10, 22:02

  i'll keep them in mind. thanks guys. 

  but, definitely not the advice about the easily bang-able girls.. :X

• TehJarVu

  11 Dec 10, 22:07

  go take your book and study lah

• zwiFany

  11 Dec 10, 23:35

  lol. studying isn't much of a problem for me, honestly. i'm able to cope well. what i can't cope now is r/s issues..D:

• CenturionMBT

  12 Dec 10, 01:51

  Dude..what you are experiencing now is not true love, but rather its simply infatuation or romantic love. It is just like a drug, it gives you a sugar high and fills your world with rose coloured glasses when she notices you and gives you an instant crash when she doesn't. It is not just a teenage problem, even adults suffer from it as well.The thing about infatuation is that it will cool off as fast as it starts.

  You have 2 options now. Tell her what you feel about her and be honest about your feelings, if she rejects you, so be it.If she doesn't, all the best.

  The otherway is to apply the principle of no contact, which allows you to grow over your emotional trauma. Tell her that you need some space to settle down your mind and that you are not going to contact her for awhile. But take note that this tool is not for playing mind games or acting dao. It is really for you to straighten out your mind and think logically. The only problem is in overcoming your own temptation to contact her and that requires alot of mental strength.

  So good luck~

  Btw, don't fall in love with every girl that shows concern to you. Think logically, not emotionally.

• zwiFany

  12 Dec 10, 17:25

  thanks for the great advice, but i don't think i fell in love with her quickly, sort of 1 and a half years later kinda thing. neither is it her looks, or skills that attracts me, it was her personality, 

  i fell for her, pretty much because i grew to understand her better. and then just, pop, before i knew it. 

  but i'll keep your advice in mind, if what i'm feeling is exactly as how you described. :)

  thanks again

• DRC

  13 Dec 10, 00:19

  Hi TS

  To help you I need to know why did she scold you?

  Did you do something to anger her?

• likeyou

  13 Dec 10, 08:34

  Forgive and forget.

  TS...go for it IF you are sincere.

  Nothing to be worry about.

• zwiFany

  13 Dec 10, 15:28

  DRC: i was talking to her, when she started scolding me, saying i was irritating, childish etc. a few days later, she claimed to be pissed that night. 

  likeyou: thanks, i will. 

• Fugazzi

  13 Dec 10, 17:34

  If u are in love or feel someone loves u - enjoy it while it lasts. Stupidity is wanting to own and make it permanent!

  Seriousness is sickness and those who are live only in their minds, they never live life cos it is the wanting, the desiring that some people, some things ought to be fulfilled.

   

• evolutiondiva

  13 Dec 10, 23:00

  Originally posted by Fugazzi:

  If u are in love or feel someone loves u - enjoy it while it lasts. Stupidity is wanting to own and make it permanent!

  Seriousness is sickness and those who are live only in their minds, they never live life cos it is the wanting, the desiring that some people, some things ought to be fulfilled.

   

  
  Its like u like that person u don't have to be with that person. Just be that person's guardian angel and watch her from a distance. So long as you know that she's fine and happy and you are happy.So its up to you whether u wanna be that guardian angel or u wanna take up your courage and let her know how much she means to you. We humans , live once therefore cherish any chances you have to make clear with her if you do really wanna be with her. Don't live life with regrets yeah ?
• CenturionMBT

  14 Dec 10, 00:07

  Originally posted by zwiFany:

  thanks for the great advice, but i don't think i fell in love with her quickly, sort of 1 and a half years later kinda thing. neither is it her looks, or skills that attracts me, it was her personality, 

  i fell for her, pretty much because i grew to understand her better. and then just, pop, before i knew it. 

  but i'll keep your advice in mind, if what i'm feeling is exactly as how you described. :)

  thanks again

  Haha, time is not an issue, neither are looks or skills or personality to give you a reason to have a romantic attachment to a person. This is what I believe is important:

  1. Are you prepared to handle the emotional trauma when she is not by your side.
  2. Are you capable of ignoring your emotional thoughts and replace it with logical ones when the time comes. That is what you will have to endure.
  3. Are you able to care for someone without hurting yourself mentally? Liking a person carries a burden. Are you ready to let go when the time needs you to.
  4. I do not encourage acting as a guardian angel kinda thing. It will backfire on you ultimately when you see that she has moved on with her life and you are still stuck there. Move off like a gentleman and make it a clean break. But keep your lines of communication open, so that when she does need you, you are around to help her. But at the mean time, make it a clean break.
     
  5. Finally, don't put her on a pedestal. Meaning don't treat her like a goddess. She is just a human like you and me, treat her as such and you will find it easier to talk to her.
     

  All the best~

• likeyou

  14 Dec 10, 08:54

  Remember, be sincere to her. No hanky panky.

• zwiFany

  14 Dec 10, 12:38

  thanks guys :)

  how can i earn her trust? it seems she doesn't trust me anymore..

• CenturionMBT

  18 Dec 10, 01:58

  Be sincere, be honest and be a gentleman. Give her space when she needs it, don't flit around her like a butterfly. And don't keep harping on her all the time. You will be tempted to enter self destructive behavior over time. Learn to love yourself first before you can love anyone else.

• zwiFany

  19 Dec 10, 23:57

  oh. i'll try it, thanks :)