my mum don approve of my bf
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Originally posted by rykiel.annabel:
sorrie if i hv offend u but i really veri hurt when ppl say racist word abt my bf when talking in real life. even at public if i hold hand or hug with him will many ppl stare at us esp aunties so rude lo. btw, he is veri handsome n fit de.
There are alot of indians out there in this world, and there are also many chinese, eurasians, malays and other races out there.You must understand that there is no way you can ever hold onto their tongues, you can expect them to do so but I won't even trust them to give respect and understand to their own loved ones, and it's normal to me if they don't know how to give respect and understanding to people who are not their loved ones.
If you're chinese, then you will also understand that there are many people in this world that looked down on chinese. And you get insulted even more when you're a girl.
Don't take it to heart if they didn't insult your boyfriend by his real name and I don't encourage you to reveal his real name and allow anyone to make fun of it.
There are all sorts of UNIMPORTANT people in here, try taking them seriously and you will only end up as the person who is going to be hurted.
So welcome all advices with open arms and be it polite or impolite, because you are really the person who is asking for help in here and this is really the only risk that you would need to take anonymously and not straight in your face.
If you can do that for your boyfriend, I'm sure you will eventually be able to find out the way that is suitable to resolve your situation.
Continue to persist and don't give up easily and you will succeed.
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just take everything said here with a pinch of salt. no need to fight or get upset... sometimes there's alot of sarcasm/humour mashed in with the good will.
it might sound mean but really, there's no ill will meant...
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Originally posted by rykiel.annabel:
sorrie if i hv offend u but i really veri hurt when ppl say racist word abt my bf when talking in real life. even at public if i hold hand or hug with him will many ppl stare at us esp aunties so rude lo. btw, he is veri handsome n fit de.
LOL ppl will always look if they see something outside the norm
Just ignore them or stare back at them
I don't even notice the stares these days
Ppl can say what they want but as long as you know your bf is not what they say, it don't matter does it?
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just tell your mom you are dating nia.. not marrying. ask her dont think so far and give yourself a break.
Then return her a question: If you were forced to date or marry someone you dont even love, you want or not? Happy bo?
like dat lor.
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Next time when you are parent you will know it yourself why they object to your relationship
When I was young, I thought inter-racial marriages were fun, Come to think of it it is not 'that fun' as it seems.
You wanna give it a thought? Seriously I can feel the way your parents do though.
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Ok, this take time and hard effort.
Ask yr bf to try to please your mum, slowly...dont give up hope.
And with sincere and lots of trusts.
One day, yr mum will love him too.
Take time ya.
Afterall, both are still very young.
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Originally posted by jgho83:
How many cuckoo have u compared?
Can u imagine giving birth to a dark skin baby? If u are ok, carry on.
BUT
Can u imagine next time, your first baby is dark skin, your second baby yellow skin, how will they feel when they grow up? WIll they feel inferior to each other?
Can u imagine your baby GIRL having dark skin while her brother is yellow skin? How will she get a chinese bf when she grow up? Does she need to find an indian bf? And who know, your 3rd baby could be brown (somewhere between dark and yellow).
THINK OF ALL THE PERMUTATIONS u can get from the genes.
If u want my opinion, mine is simple - leave him.
I know u love him but in the long run, it could affect u, your family ties, and your next generation. End it.
jgho, if only all bigots like you just jump down kallang river and drown yourself.. this world will be a much better place.
What century are we living in now ? How old are you really, 80 ?
President Obama is half black half white. And people VOTED him in to become president.
Black skin, brown skin, yellow skin, pink skin, are any of them any less human ?
So far, all the mix race babies I've seen are beautiful. Prettier than pure breeds. Tiny Singapore is having too many inbred babies, and are starting to look uglier and uglier every new generations.
Go to England, and you will see too many ugly white people walking around the streets. That's the result of generations of inbreding among their own race on that island.
Bigotry needs to stop NOW.
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Still young, it's not like marriage or engagement is looming, so I'll say, just resume activities as normal and if possible, don't engage your BF with your family, such as festivities, gatherings and if you do so, then ensure that he can charm others with his sincerity or endure the negativities.
Regarding going out and being afraid of your mum catching you, don't worry about it, I mean what are the chances of that happening anyway. But as customary, 17 IS a young age, you can't even do certain things without your parent's consent or by law and it's irritating to see young people thinking they're adapt to overcome many worldly adversary.
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Hey, my colleague is indian, but his gf is chinese.
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Originally posted by TIB 781 L:
Next time when you are parent you will know it yourself why they object to your relationship
When I was young, I thought inter-racial marriages were fun, Come to think of it it is not 'that fun' as it seems.
You wanna give it a thought? Seriously I can feel the way your parents do though.
You are right.Inter-racial marriages are wrong and sinful.There are still many Chinese guys available and I am a Chinese guy too.
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Originally posted by pavarotti:
You are right.Inter-racial marriages are wrong and sinful.There are still many Chinese guys available and I am a Chinese guy too.
Yah right. You have no problem marrying a white girl aye... moron.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
why, all chinese guys died liao ar??? leave the indian to the indian gal lah, otherwise lots of indian gals become sinister you know....many chinese gals either ugly, out of shape or too old liao, got not choice then go for indian bf, you good looking, can get chinese or even ang mo bf..no problem, come to my pub, i can recommend you a few, sure better than yr indian bf. Guess your mom is right, indian guy like to beat wife, becareful hor...now happy, later than you know, once the whisky goes in only, indian can make you like a roti prata
you know she (TS) chinese arh? -
hmm...if he(or any guy) is honest, cares for u, understanding, responsible, he is a source of support for u, u feel comfortable&happy when u're with him, walks his talk, have real substance under all that muscles, u love him and the both of u are dedicated and commited to each other to work thru problems that will/might arise in the future....should be ok. like what other readers says....ur own happiness cannot leave to ur mum or other humans to decide. if u r religious, not what 'they' say tt is impt, but what 'He' says(or she or.......hmm..basically your God).....mb can talking to ur mum abt it also, find out her apprehensions and worries, after all she is concerned for u bcuz she loves u as her daughter(thank God for worried mothers).....yup, can tell her this type of man(mentioned above)...close to extinction alrdy...if u find one, cannot let go. hahahz! well...just my own half cent. hope sum part of this helps. let's us know how it goes? =) (i nt kapo..just wanna see how this 'drama' unfolds)
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Once you go black you never go back.... Anyways on a Serious note nothing wrong with having a different race partner... Most people who are against this are mainly narrow minded people,
Chinese guys with other races are really rare.. Cos we all know they cant Fark well and are boring as hell (J/k).. Chinese guys also cant play sports well, cant fight and have problem being accepted by other races and they look like they have permanent jaundice.
But they are defiantly smart at finding money. Which is not really important as alot dont have a life outside work... Going to cashbox or restaurants daily and hanging out at pubs and clubs and owning a sports car is not life and its not important.
I forgot 1 more, THEY CANT DANCE, they cant move their body naturally.. So that says alot about sex.
They also have problem socialising with others...
The list can go on and on, Not only for chinese but Indians and malays as well. So you see If you love someone, Please disregard his race, cos race is nothing special.. Its only for people to claim glory for their skin color or stereotype others for theirs.
You choose yourself, Wether you want to be a Chinese or a Singaporean. I choose to disregard my race and be a Singaporean.
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I do have a neighour (chinese) who married with a Indian guy. Of course not as young as TS, They married around 25 yrs of age.
Now they have 3 kids...occassionally, they bring their kids to see their parents. And their kids soooooo cute, pretty and handsome.
Btw...his hubby can see that he's not those gang gang but looking very firce like want to fight pple type. Can see he's those working mature adult. Clean and tidy type.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Like me, learn to eat buffet instead of getting just one bf, I also got indian, eurasian, chinese, ang mo, black, US marine bf,..every weekend take a new one, new condition, new dating, so exciting. As for indian and black, i think you mother worry that if she at nite wake up and go toilet, may scare to dead if she see them. Take care, and remember, marry yr own race, you will never regret. Think far, not now hor, me chop men first, later than get marry if my prince arrive
wah lew ........ smelly liao lah.......... so many ppl ...................
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Originally posted by rykiel.annabel:
angel i hv a few guys wan to chase me but my bf 'protect' me frm them lo. i am nt ugly la. hai.. he so mucsle if he beat me sure i die le. whr ur pub?
i am going 17 soon but my mum still treat me like small girl :(
of course lah. many guys want to chase angie you know how i 'protec' her? not protect. i have to bring the other guys down so that she can be mine, forever. this is natural. if you like him like that then you should consider other guys too, they all like that. what i worry is how he execute the action of 'protec', hope next time everything he do is 'protec' and ended up in police station.have your family or relative been through iinter-racial relationships before? you know how his family is like and his lifestyl;e and friends in details? how about his family? they know your backgounf also?
until you know mpore about it i am with your mom. if i have children i will worry too, especially if they are still childish and have to come forum post for help and advice.
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Originally posted by gUms:
Once you go black you never go back.... Anyways on a Serious note nothing wrong with having a different race partner... Most people who are against this are mainly narrow minded people, Chinese guys with other races are really rare.. Cos we all know they cant Fark well and are boring as hell (J/k).. Chinese guys cant play sports well, cant fight and have problem being accepted by other races,(J/k again).
They also have problem socialising with others...
from this thread i know this coming but i don;t care anyway. if indians only know how to doll up themselves to want to look good, only know what to be powerdefully in sex then i can say chinese are better off many times over. in the mind. the brain been the central of a human, the most important element in a man. lookat bollywood movies, even action ones when music and dances usually have no place tthey also can slot one two scenes in it. lame
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Actually there are quite a number of Indian/Chinese couples on SGF
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Originally posted by likeyou:
I do have a neighour (chinese) who married with a Indian guy. Of course not as young as TS, They married around 25 yrs of age.
Now they have 3 kids...occassionally, they bring their kids to see their parents. And their kids soooooo cute, pretty and handsome.
Btw...his hubby can see that he's not those gang gang but looking very firce like want to fight pple type. Can see he's those working mature adult. Clean and tidy type.
post peektures pls. coz i am an ugly chinese dog, so when i see other bitches they are always so sexy and pretty
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Originally posted by elindra:
Actually there are quite a number of Indian/Chinese couples on SGF
Faith.Past life they already promised each other that no matter which race you born, they will be together again this life.
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fyi, i am chinese 17 yrs old n he is 20+. i hv dated chinese guys before but my feeling for them is not as strong with tis current bf. i feel veri secure n well love by him. he nv try to exclude me frm his grp of frenz n i know most ppl he hang out with. he is consider quite socialable type. only my mum know abt tis cz i don hv sis or bro. i don plan to tell my dad until i settle tis problem wif my mum cz it will only make it worst.
ditzy whr u work?
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I don’t believe that it’s some kind of contract you made in your past life or whatever but I think if he treats you well and loves you and both of you can get along well, you should just look past race. Ultimately that is more important than the colour of your skin. Seriously.
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Yr bf working or schooling or ns?
U still schooling?
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Originally posted by likeyou:
Ask yr bf to try to please your mum, slowly...dont give up hope.
And with sincere and lots of trusts.
One day, yr mum will love him too.
i'm getting weird ideas